Confused as to why a guy would behave like this /u/Various_Breath_3477 Sex

So this guy (m42) and I (f30) have been going on dates with each other for drinks and other things regularly for more than two years, and have been long-term coworkers and friends for way longer than that.

Of course, we’re both single and without other partners. I’ve made it very clear that I like him, and want him on both body and mind levels. He also said quite a lot of times that he likes spending time with me, likes me back in a romantic way, and finds me very attractive. So there’s no issue with whether I’m being one-sided or not. We’ve talked about what we want from each other very openly, and are on the same page: one on one romantic relationship but no marriage and kids. So this is also not an issue.

Now that there’s no major issues… When I chatted with my friends about this a few days ago, I suddenly realised that we still haven’t even got physical properly even after all this time: yes, a lot of kisses, hugs, holding hands, cuddles, but not getting physical properly. Not even once. Two grown a** adults, everything seems fine, but it’s not happening. And I’m quite confused.

Oh and judging by what I can feel from the limited physical intimacy we had, he doesn’t seem to have any issues sexually either.

So I’m just confused: What can make a guy behave in such an… oddly vanilla way? Is it normal?

Not that I have to get this guy physically or something, I also have been enjoying the status quo. Just want to understand him a bit better without talking to him directly (both of us are introverts and a conversation about that may turn very painful…).

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So this guy (m42) and I (f30) have been going on dates with each other for drinks and other things regularly for more than two years, and have been long-term coworkers and friends for way longer than that.

Of course, we’re both single and without other partners. I’ve made it very clear that I like him, and want him on both body and mind levels. He also said quite a lot of times that he likes spending time with me, likes me back in a romantic way, and finds me very attractive. So there’s no issue with whether I’m being one-sided or not. We’ve talked about what we want from each other very openly, and are on the same page: one on one romantic relationship but no marriage and kids. So this is also not an issue.

Now that there’s no major issues… When I chatted with my friends about this a few days ago, I suddenly realised that we still haven’t even got physical properly even after all this time: yes, a lot of kisses, hugs, holding hands, cuddles, but not getting physical properly. Not even once. Two grown a** adults, everything seems fine, but it’s not happening. And I’m quite confused.

Oh and judging by what I can feel from the limited physical intimacy we had, he doesn’t seem to have any issues sexually either.

So I’m just confused: What can make a guy behave in such an… oddly vanilla way? Is it normal?

Not that I have to get this guy physically or something, I also have been enjoying the status quo. Just want to understand him a bit better without talking to him directly (both of us are introverts and a conversation about that may turn very painful…).

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