Struggle to fit just a finger inside as a virgin? /u/Miu_Cat Sex

Hi this is going to be kind of specific but my bf and I are starting to experiment and I’m kind of worried. It’s always hurt to fit anything inside my vagina, so I’ve only tried fingering myself once and stopped almost immediately cause it hurt. Also I never tried tampons.

My bf’s nails are clipped and he washed his hands before. Additionally, we had foreplay and he made me finish once (by rubbing my clit from outside my underwear as I usually do to masturbate and it’s been the only way I’ve been able to finish so far) before putting a finger in so it should’ve been wet enough (we didn’t have any lube on us btw). Immediately, when he pushed it in, I felt this like burning kind of pain. He wasn’t being rough at all or jackhammering it, he just stuck it in. I felt like he stuck his whole finger in, but no, turns out he’d only stuck the very tip. I had him stop to wait for the pain to subside a bit then try moving a bit and this process repeated for hours without much success. (He also helped me finish again once in between). Eventually, it was only when I tried stimulating my clit while he pushed his finger inside that the pain subsided enough and he was able to fit his whole finger in, but even then it still hurt when he moved it. I genuinely could not see how I would be able to find any pleasure from any form of penetration if I continue like this.

Side note but when he fit his whole finger in he said it felt like he hit a wall which he assumed was the cervix. I’ve heard a normal vagina is around like 3 inches(?) when relaxed but it should be able to expand more when aroused right? And I definitely should have been aroused so I guess that’s another question I have.

So I wanted to know if there might be some issue I don’t know about or if this is normal? I know the first time is supposed to hurt a little according to some, but I don’t think I should hurt/struggle this much especially with something as small as a finger. Also if anyone has any advice on how to remedy this that would be great! Thanks yall!

Hi this is going to be kind of specific but my bf and I are starting to experiment and I’m kind of worried. It’s always hurt to fit anything inside my vagina, so I’ve only tried fingering myself once and stopped almost immediately cause it hurt. Also I never tried tampons.

My bf’s nails are clipped and he washed his hands before. Additionally, we had foreplay and he made me finish once (by rubbing my clit from outside my underwear as I usually do to masturbate and it’s been the only way I’ve been able to finish so far) before putting a finger in so it should’ve been wet enough (we didn’t have any lube on us btw). Immediately, when he pushed it in, I felt this like burning kind of pain. He wasn’t being rough at all or jackhammering it, he just stuck it in. I felt like he stuck his whole finger in, but no, turns out he’d only stuck the very tip. I had him stop to wait for the pain to subside a bit then try moving a bit and this process repeated for hours without much success. (He also helped me finish again once in between). Eventually, it was only when I tried stimulating my clit while he pushed his finger inside that the pain subsided enough and he was able to fit his whole finger in, but even then it still hurt when he moved it. I genuinely could not see how I would be able to find any pleasure from any form of penetration if I continue like this.

Side note but when he fit his whole finger in he said it felt like he hit a wall which he assumed was the cervix. I’ve heard a normal vagina is around like 3 inches(?) when relaxed but it should be able to expand more when aroused right? And I definitely should have been aroused so I guess that’s another question I have.

So I wanted to know if there might be some issue I don’t know about or if this is normal? I know the first time is supposed to hurt a little according to some, but I don’t think I should hurt/struggle this much especially with something as small as a finger. Also if anyone has any advice on how to remedy this that would be great! Thanks yall!