My bf and I of 3.5 years used to have sex frequently in the first two years. The last year and a half he’s been out of work and I’ve had to work more. It’s put a HUGE financial strain on me and our relationship. Our sex life dwindled and we’ve struggled a lot. We’re talking more about this with each other, that it’s important to fix. The obvious fix we both know is him getting a job. I’ve lost the lust and desire I used to feel for him and I feel ashamed to say that. I think it’s because I feel more like a mother than a partner. He told me he hasn’t lost any desire or attraction towards me.
He’s on track to getting a job but I’m worried that, since my attraction has decreased so much, that I won’t be able to get it back. He told me, he has sexual desires and fantasies he’d like us to do and that would help him with our sex life. We’ve always had a very vanilla sex life which is what I like, mostly because I’ve never tried anything more…but I’m open to trying new things
How do I help myself find that desire and attraction I once had for him? I want to have sex and I can masturbate well enough but I want to have sex with him. I find myself not able to get wet or just not liking it when he touches me sexually/ tries to initiate sex. To be clear, I do love him and see him as my life partner so I’m committed to fixing this.
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r/sex My bf and I of 3.5 years used to have sex frequently in the first two years. The last year and a half he’s been out of work and I’ve had to work more. It’s put a HUGE financial strain on me and our relationship. Our sex life dwindled and we’ve struggled a lot. We’re talking more about this with each other, that it’s important to fix. The obvious fix we both know is him getting a job. I’ve lost the lust and desire I used to feel for him and I feel ashamed to say that. I think it’s because I feel more like a mother than a partner. He told me he hasn’t lost any desire or attraction towards me. He’s on track to getting a job but I’m worried that, since my attraction has decreased so much, that I won’t be able to get it back. He told me, he has sexual desires and fantasies he’d like us to do and that would help him with our sex life. We’ve always had a very vanilla sex life which is what I like, mostly because I’ve never tried anything more…but I’m open to trying new things How do I help myself find that desire and attraction I once had for him? I want to have sex and I can masturbate well enough but I want to have sex with him. I find myself not able to get wet or just not liking it when he touches me sexually/ tries to initiate sex. To be clear, I do love him and see him as my life partner so I’m committed to fixing this. submitted by /u/greenswan46 [link] [comments]
My bf and I of 3.5 years used to have sex frequently in the first two years. The last year and a half he’s been out of work and I’ve had to work more. It’s put a HUGE financial strain on me and our relationship. Our sex life dwindled and we’ve struggled a lot. We’re talking more about this with each other, that it’s important to fix. The obvious fix we both know is him getting a job. I’ve lost the lust and desire I used to feel for him and I feel ashamed to say that. I think it’s because I feel more like a mother than a partner. He told me he hasn’t lost any desire or attraction towards me.
He’s on track to getting a job but I’m worried that, since my attraction has decreased so much, that I won’t be able to get it back. He told me, he has sexual desires and fantasies he’d like us to do and that would help him with our sex life. We’ve always had a very vanilla sex life which is what I like, mostly because I’ve never tried anything more…but I’m open to trying new things
How do I help myself find that desire and attraction I once had for him? I want to have sex and I can masturbate well enough but I want to have sex with him. I find myself not able to get wet or just not liking it when he touches me sexually/ tries to initiate sex. To be clear, I do love him and see him as my life partner so I’m committed to fixing this.
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