how to keep things spicy and interesting during a busy/stressful time for us? /u/wouldyoulikeasnack Sex

never posted here but HERE I GO. I am 20f

my boyfriend and i have been together for 1yr 3mo and… I’ve never been more attracted to a man in my life (he was my first). And same for him about me. When we first began dating he did excessive research to know how to properly satisfy a woman, which tells you he’s a keeper 100% since my friends’ exes just kept thrusting and shaking the bed hehe. We have great sex although it’s pretty vanilla, we’re tried spicier things before like bondage and roleplay but it was kinda eh. We mainly just do the basic missionary/cowgirl/doggy style routine, and sometimes a little bit of head.

Now this isn’t what I’m posting about. The problem is that I’m a university student trying to come up with my big graduation project, and he just got promoted; we’re feeling pretty burnt out. If we’re together there’s pretty much a mutual understanding that we WANT each other in that way but we’re too tired to do it. And if we do it just doesn’t feel right because we’re trying to put maximum effort in and get pretty beat.

So what can we do? I don’t want our sex life to evaporate until i finish my semester and he gets used to his new job. I know sex isn’t everything in a relationship obviously, it isn’t a huge priority ultimately but our chemistry together is so strong and we can feel downstairs that we want each other. Please help a girl out. Any responses appreciated

never posted here but HERE I GO. I am 20f

my boyfriend and i have been together for 1yr 3mo and… I’ve never been more attracted to a man in my life (he was my first). And same for him about me. When we first began dating he did excessive research to know how to properly satisfy a woman, which tells you he’s a keeper 100% since my friends’ exes just kept thrusting and shaking the bed hehe. We have great sex although it’s pretty vanilla, we’re tried spicier things before like bondage and roleplay but it was kinda eh. We mainly just do the basic missionary/cowgirl/doggy style routine, and sometimes a little bit of head.

Now this isn’t what I’m posting about. The problem is that I’m a university student trying to come up with my big graduation project, and he just got promoted; we’re feeling pretty burnt out. If we’re together there’s pretty much a mutual understanding that we WANT each other in that way but we’re too tired to do it. And if we do it just doesn’t feel right because we’re trying to put maximum effort in and get pretty beat.

So what can we do? I don’t want our sex life to evaporate until i finish my semester and he gets used to his new job. I know sex isn’t everything in a relationship obviously, it isn’t a huge priority ultimately but our chemistry together is so strong and we can feel downstairs that we want each other. Please help a girl out. Any responses appreciated