Criteria necessary for good male-female sex /u/Local_Geologist_9707 Sex

Hi all, bit insecure (am working on this with a therapist) but thought I’d ask the public as well. When having sex with my girlfriend, she is (practically) always wet because there is a good amount of foreplay involved, we do PIV (usually starting with her on top, then sometimes some missionary/doggy). I finish and then I finish her off with my hand (I know she finishes after pretty much every session). She doesn’t like oral, generally. She also says she has never come vaginally/during the PIV part of sex with anyone, although she does really enjoy the PIV aspect well. She tells me she is very happy with the sex. However, I have a few things I’m insecure about.

1. I often don’t remain 100% hard during the PIV. Sometimes it drops to maybe 70-80% hard and I don’t know if that is normal and whether it still pleasurable at that point (I’m about average sized, maybe slightly bigger). I know there is no physiological reason for the drop in hardness, just psychological if anything.she insists it doesn’t affect the quality of sex.
2. The PIV part generally lasts about 5-10 mins, sometimes a bit less, sometimes a bit more.
3. I don’t know if we’re doing enough positions. I know she is a bit sub and has said that there are certain things she likes (being bent over, tossed around) that we haven’t done too much of yet but will try and work more towards as and when it feels more natural for us. She has also told me that while she likes this stuff she really isn’t missing or feeling it is necessary with me (more than currently happens).

I still have this feeling that 3 points mean that the sex has to not be that great and there’s a chance she’s just saying what she’s saying to be nice :/ I’m sure it could be worse but yeah. Welcome any opinions on this. Also happy for constructive feedback (ideally try not to be too crushing hahah). As I said, I am trying to work on any psychological reasons for dropping hardness and ideally would last a little longer as well but it may take a little time for me to get there.

Hi all, bit insecure (am working on this with a therapist) but thought I’d ask the public as well. When having sex with my girlfriend, she is (practically) always wet because there is a good amount of foreplay involved, we do PIV (usually starting with her on top, then sometimes some missionary/doggy). I finish and then I finish her off with my hand (I know she finishes after pretty much every session). She doesn’t like oral, generally. She also says she has never come vaginally/during the PIV part of sex with anyone, although she does really enjoy the PIV aspect well. She tells me she is very happy with the sex. However, I have a few things I’m insecure about.

1. I often don’t remain 100% hard during the PIV. Sometimes it drops to maybe 70-80% hard and I don’t know if that is normal and whether it still pleasurable at that point (I’m about average sized, maybe slightly bigger). I know there is no physiological reason for the drop in hardness, just psychological if anything.she insists it doesn’t affect the quality of sex.
2. The PIV part generally lasts about 5-10 mins, sometimes a bit less, sometimes a bit more.
3. I don’t know if we’re doing enough positions. I know she is a bit sub and has said that there are certain things she likes (being bent over, tossed around) that we haven’t done too much of yet but will try and work more towards as and when it feels more natural for us. She has also told me that while she likes this stuff she really isn’t missing or feeling it is necessary with me (more than currently happens).

I still have this feeling that 3 points mean that the sex has to not be that great and there’s a chance she’s just saying what she’s saying to be nice :/ I’m sure it could be worse but yeah. Welcome any opinions on this. Also happy for constructive feedback (ideally try not to be too crushing hahah). As I said, I am trying to work on any psychological reasons for dropping hardness and ideally would last a little longer as well but it may take a little time for me to get there.