Sex gives me so much anxiety and I’ve never even had it yet /u/Far_Chocolate_7794 Sex

I’m a 26 year old guy, and I’m a virgin. Never had sex, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. There are a multitude of reasons for this, the key ones being my shyness, low self-esteem, and obesity. I’m working on losing weight and hope to be at a healthy weight by 27 (I know fat people can have sex and date, but I’ve tried and no one is interested in anything other than platonic friendship, trust me).

All of this really really bothers me. Because I never gained the experience when I was a dumb teenager who was not supposed to know anything, I have so many sexual anxieties floating throughout my head almost 24/7.

These include:

• What woman would even want me since I have no experience? Will I ever actually get a girlfriend?
• No one has ever found me attractive before so why would they know? Whether it be extra pounds or inevitable loose skin, I feel screwed because of my body.
• I’m going to be absolutely awful at kissing as a 27 year old. A woman is going to have to teach me how to be a good kisser. How humiliating.
• I guarantee that the moment a woman touches me or kisses, I’m going to cum in my pants and completely embarrass myself and blow any chance of that happening again.
• I’m very self-conscious about the size of my penis. I can’t even get an accurate measurement because of my pubic fat. I think it’s 5 inches but who fucking knows how it will look if I lose the weight. Can’t imagine a woman actually liking it either way
• If I don’t lost my virginity by the time I’m 30 I’ll feel like losing it to an escort which is just pathetic

I can’t these thoughts out of my mind. I literally can’t go a day without thinking about at least one of these. It’s very frustrating and I don’t know what to do. Any advice or reassurance you have is greatly appreciated.

I’m a 26 year old guy, and I’m a virgin. Never had sex, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. There are a multitude of reasons for this, the key ones being my shyness, low self-esteem, and obesity. I’m working on losing weight and hope to be at a healthy weight by 27 (I know fat people can have sex and date, but I’ve tried and no one is interested in anything other than platonic friendship, trust me).

All of this really really bothers me. Because I never gained the experience when I was a dumb teenager who was not supposed to know anything, I have so many sexual anxieties floating throughout my head almost 24/7.

These include:

• What woman would even want me since I have no experience? Will I ever actually get a girlfriend?
• No one has ever found me attractive before so why would they know? Whether it be extra pounds or inevitable loose skin, I feel screwed because of my body.
• I’m going to be absolutely awful at kissing as a 27 year old. A woman is going to have to teach me how to be a good kisser. How humiliating.
• I guarantee that the moment a woman touches me or kisses, I’m going to cum in my pants and completely embarrass myself and blow any chance of that happening again.
• I’m very self-conscious about the size of my penis. I can’t even get an accurate measurement because of my pubic fat. I think it’s 5 inches but who fucking knows how it will look if I lose the weight. Can’t imagine a woman actually liking it either way
• If I don’t lost my virginity by the time I’m 30 I’ll feel like losing it to an escort which is just pathetic

I can’t these thoughts out of my mind. I literally can’t go a day without thinking about at least one of these. It’s very frustrating and I don’t know what to do. Any advice or reassurance you have is greatly appreciated.