hi all, i’m f(18), and as the title says, i have trouble being an active participant in sex because i feel like i’m doing something wrong or shameful. i lost my virginity last fall, and i honestly felt like i was ready. it was with a really sweet guy i had been seeing who respected and cared for me, and we talked about it and planned it before. even though i wanted to do it, it was more like something i passively “let him” do to me. since then, i have had two other sexual experiences (not penetration) with a different guy, and i felt like like i was doing something wrong by participating at all, almost like it made me “slutty” to do things to him and not just “let him” do things to me. i really have liked both of these guys and wanted to be more of an active participant and please them, but i have a weird mental block about it. anyone have any advice on how to get over this kind of guilt?
edit: i also wanted to add that i think this guilt stems from the feeling that when i’m engaging in sexual acts, i almost feel like im being taken advantage of in some way, even though this is absolutely not true whatsoever. both people i’ve been with have genuinely cared for me and we have had explicit conversations about consent/ boundaries etc., and i genuinely did and do want to do these things with them
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r/sex hi all, i’m f(18), and as the title says, i have trouble being an active participant in sex because i feel like i’m doing something wrong or shameful. i lost my virginity last fall, and i honestly felt like i was ready. it was with a really sweet guy i had been seeing who respected and cared for me, and we talked about it and planned it before. even though i wanted to do it, it was more like something i passively “let him” do to me. since then, i have had two other sexual experiences (not penetration) with a different guy, and i felt like like i was doing something wrong by participating at all, almost like it made me “slutty” to do things to him and not just “let him” do things to me. i really have liked both of these guys and wanted to be more of an active participant and please them, but i have a weird mental block about it. anyone have any advice on how to get over this kind of guilt? edit: i also wanted to add that i think this guilt stems from the feeling that when i’m engaging in sexual acts, i almost feel like im being taken advantage of in some way, even though this is absolutely not true whatsoever. both people i’ve been with have genuinely cared for me and we have had explicit conversations about consent/ boundaries etc., and i genuinely did and do want to do these things with them submitted by /u/Intrepid-Mixture1735 [link] [comments]
hi all, i’m f(18), and as the title says, i have trouble being an active participant in sex because i feel like i’m doing something wrong or shameful. i lost my virginity last fall, and i honestly felt like i was ready. it was with a really sweet guy i had been seeing who respected and cared for me, and we talked about it and planned it before. even though i wanted to do it, it was more like something i passively “let him” do to me. since then, i have had two other sexual experiences (not penetration) with a different guy, and i felt like like i was doing something wrong by participating at all, almost like it made me “slutty” to do things to him and not just “let him” do things to me. i really have liked both of these guys and wanted to be more of an active participant and please them, but i have a weird mental block about it. anyone have any advice on how to get over this kind of guilt?
edit: i also wanted to add that i think this guilt stems from the feeling that when i’m engaging in sexual acts, i almost feel like im being taken advantage of in some way, even though this is absolutely not true whatsoever. both people i’ve been with have genuinely cared for me and we have had explicit conversations about consent/ boundaries etc., and i genuinely did and do want to do these things with them
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