Getting my sexually shy wife out of her shell about her kinks/turn ons /u/ArtEmbarrassed3234 Sex

I’ve been married to my wife for over a decade, (late 30s). Soulmates, kids, the works.

But she’s very shy sexually and I just cannot get her to open up about what she wants or gets her going. There’s literally nothing off the table for me, but she’s just too dang shy to share.

She’s told me she gets herself alone sometimes and when I ask about what got her going she doesn’t really have an answer.

I’ve offered up ideas and things that I’d be interested in exploring, but she just kinda shuts me down or doesn’t get into it.

Once I asked her what she fantasizes about and she told me something along the lines of “she doesn’t, and asking about it makes her feel like I’m putting pressure on her”

Any ideas or suggestions?

I’ve been married to my wife for over a decade, (late 30s). Soulmates, kids, the works.

But she’s very shy sexually and I just cannot get her to open up about what she wants or gets her going. There’s literally nothing off the table for me, but she’s just too dang shy to share.

She’s told me she gets herself alone sometimes and when I ask about what got her going she doesn’t really have an answer.

I’ve offered up ideas and things that I’d be interested in exploring, but she just kinda shuts me down or doesn’t get into it.

Once I asked her what she fantasizes about and she told me something along the lines of “she doesn’t, and asking about it makes her feel like I’m putting pressure on her”

Any ideas or suggestions?