Discomfort with casual sex /u/yes_bears_27 Sex

I’m a woman in her mid 20s and i’ve not been sexually active for 1.5 years. Before the break, I had slept with quite a few people casually (some with friends, some from apps) and I realized that I barely enjoyed it, hence why I took that long break.

Last night, I met a man from an app and we had sex. It wasn’t terrible but it was not nearly as satisfying as I thought it would be, and in some aspects a little bit painful (certain positions are a bit painful for me so this is not the man’s fault entirely). To be fair, I wasn’t super attracted to the man but he checked off enough boxes for me to be okay sleeping with him – but I guess it wasn’t enough for me to enjoy the sexual experience.

The only time I recall ever enjoying sex a lot is with my ex, and that probably makes sense because I had that emotional connection with him which amplified the experience considerably, and I know that sex is a very different experience (especially for women) when they have an emotional connection with their partner.

I think it’s a little bit frustrating because there were many times during that break when I yearned for sex and although my toy did suffice, it obviously did not compare to sex with a human being. And now that I am entering the sex game again, I am coming to the conclusion that I cannot enjoy sex unless I have that emotional connection with someone.

I just wanted to see if there are a lot of other women who are experiencing the same as me.. I’m someone who wants to enjoy sex casually but can’t because it just doesn’t really feel that great. Maybe it might be different if I had a friends with benefits? Please share your experiences and your advice/input below!!

I’m a woman in her mid 20s and i’ve not been sexually active for 1.5 years. Before the break, I had slept with quite a few people casually (some with friends, some from apps) and I realized that I barely enjoyed it, hence why I took that long break.

Last night, I met a man from an app and we had sex. It wasn’t terrible but it was not nearly as satisfying as I thought it would be, and in some aspects a little bit painful (certain positions are a bit painful for me so this is not the man’s fault entirely). To be fair, I wasn’t super attracted to the man but he checked off enough boxes for me to be okay sleeping with him – but I guess it wasn’t enough for me to enjoy the sexual experience.

The only time I recall ever enjoying sex a lot is with my ex, and that probably makes sense because I had that emotional connection with him which amplified the experience considerably, and I know that sex is a very different experience (especially for women) when they have an emotional connection with their partner.

I think it’s a little bit frustrating because there were many times during that break when I yearned for sex and although my toy did suffice, it obviously did not compare to sex with a human being. And now that I am entering the sex game again, I am coming to the conclusion that I cannot enjoy sex unless I have that emotional connection with someone.

I just wanted to see if there are a lot of other women who are experiencing the same as me.. I’m someone who wants to enjoy sex casually but can’t because it just doesn’t really feel that great. Maybe it might be different if I had a friends with benefits? Please share your experiences and your advice/input below!!