I (24F) struggle with panic attacks (hyperventilation, nausea, lightheadedness, crying) after sex or any other sexual acts and it’s ruining my dating life. I generally struggle with really bad anxiety but this feels like a separate issue. I’ve only had sex with men and often overthink my actions during sex, as if I’m ticking off a checklist in my mind of what I’m supposed to be doing without actually enjoying it. Even when I do enjoy myself I end up having a panic attack. I just feel so guilty and sort of like I want to pull into myself and disappear (this sometimes happens after masturbation as well). I do also struggle with body issues, I think if I couldn’t see myself I’d relax more because I wouldn’t overthink how I look. I also think the concept of sex developed in my mind in a very transactional way (think heteronormative stereotypes, and cheating amd so on).
Now I have a girlfriend who enjoys sex a lot (and has a lot of experience with women which I do not have) and I’m too afraid to do anything because I’m scared I’ll be bad and she won’t want to be with me anymore. I have told her about the panic attacks but I do feel like she’s not taking it as seriously as I’d hoped she would. She told me she’s fine waiting but she keeps bringing it up so it doesn’t feel so fine anymore.
Has anyone experienced anything similar and could tell me what’s wrong with me? I do feel sexual attraction so I don’t think I’m asexual.
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r/sex I (24F) struggle with panic attacks (hyperventilation, nausea, lightheadedness, crying) after sex or any other sexual acts and it’s ruining my dating life. I generally struggle with really bad anxiety but this feels like a separate issue. I’ve only had sex with men and often overthink my actions during sex, as if I’m ticking off a checklist in my mind of what I’m supposed to be doing without actually enjoying it. Even when I do enjoy myself I end up having a panic attack. I just feel so guilty and sort of like I want to pull into myself and disappear (this sometimes happens after masturbation as well). I do also struggle with body issues, I think if I couldn’t see myself I’d relax more because I wouldn’t overthink how I look. I also think the concept of sex developed in my mind in a very transactional way (think heteronormative stereotypes, and cheating amd so on). Now I have a girlfriend who enjoys sex a lot (and has a lot of experience with women which I do not have) and I’m too afraid to do anything because I’m scared I’ll be bad and she won’t want to be with me anymore. I have told her about the panic attacks but I do feel like she’s not taking it as seriously as I’d hoped she would. She told me she’s fine waiting but she keeps bringing it up so it doesn’t feel so fine anymore. Has anyone experienced anything similar and could tell me what’s wrong with me? I do feel sexual attraction so I don’t think I’m asexual. submitted by /u/hunty_baby [link] [comments]
I (24F) struggle with panic attacks (hyperventilation, nausea, lightheadedness, crying) after sex or any other sexual acts and it’s ruining my dating life. I generally struggle with really bad anxiety but this feels like a separate issue. I’ve only had sex with men and often overthink my actions during sex, as if I’m ticking off a checklist in my mind of what I’m supposed to be doing without actually enjoying it. Even when I do enjoy myself I end up having a panic attack. I just feel so guilty and sort of like I want to pull into myself and disappear (this sometimes happens after masturbation as well). I do also struggle with body issues, I think if I couldn’t see myself I’d relax more because I wouldn’t overthink how I look. I also think the concept of sex developed in my mind in a very transactional way (think heteronormative stereotypes, and cheating amd so on).
Now I have a girlfriend who enjoys sex a lot (and has a lot of experience with women which I do not have) and I’m too afraid to do anything because I’m scared I’ll be bad and she won’t want to be with me anymore. I have told her about the panic attacks but I do feel like she’s not taking it as seriously as I’d hoped she would. She told me she’s fine waiting but she keeps bringing it up so it doesn’t feel so fine anymore.
Has anyone experienced anything similar and could tell me what’s wrong with me? I do feel sexual attraction so I don’t think I’m asexual.
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