I need advice. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and have been together for more than 10 years. We have been living together for 6 years. In the beginning we were have sex frequently (like 1/2 a week) but for the last couple of years it’s going down hill…
The last 3 years we tried to be intimate but every time he can’t stay hard. We start with some foreplay and even then he doesn’t get hard sometimes. For the last 2 years we only tried it like 3/4 times. I get discouraged and even a little bit embarrassed if it happens so I don’t initiate having sex anymore. It makes me feel unattractive. We had a few conversations about it and he said that it happens because he masturbates. He promised to stop doing that so we can have sex but nothing changes. We had this conversation like a few times and it seems that he hasn’t stopped doing it. I asked him if it’s me or he’s not attractive anymore but he says that ain’t the case. I don’t think he is cheating on me and also don’t think he’s gay.
What am I supposed to do? Wearing lingerie or dressing up nice doesn’t affect him because for example if he masturbates in the morning and I look like nice at night he automatically can’t do it anymore. I love having sex but been missing it for years now which makes me very frustrated.
He doesn’t seem to be bothered by it because he never starts the conversation about it and also doesn’t changes his habit.
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r/sex I need advice. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and have been together for more than 10 years. We have been living together for 6 years. In the beginning we were have sex frequently (like 1/2 a week) but for the last couple of years it’s going down hill… The last 3 years we tried to be intimate but every time he can’t stay hard. We start with some foreplay and even then he doesn’t get hard sometimes. For the last 2 years we only tried it like 3/4 times. I get discouraged and even a little bit embarrassed if it happens so I don’t initiate having sex anymore. It makes me feel unattractive. We had a few conversations about it and he said that it happens because he masturbates. He promised to stop doing that so we can have sex but nothing changes. We had this conversation like a few times and it seems that he hasn’t stopped doing it. I asked him if it’s me or he’s not attractive anymore but he says that ain’t the case. I don’t think he is cheating on me and also don’t think he’s gay. What am I supposed to do? Wearing lingerie or dressing up nice doesn’t affect him because for example if he masturbates in the morning and I look like nice at night he automatically can’t do it anymore. I love having sex but been missing it for years now which makes me very frustrated. He doesn’t seem to be bothered by it because he never starts the conversation about it and also doesn’t changes his habit. submitted by /u/Girly_introvert [link] [comments]
I need advice. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and have been together for more than 10 years. We have been living together for 6 years. In the beginning we were have sex frequently (like 1/2 a week) but for the last couple of years it’s going down hill…
The last 3 years we tried to be intimate but every time he can’t stay hard. We start with some foreplay and even then he doesn’t get hard sometimes. For the last 2 years we only tried it like 3/4 times. I get discouraged and even a little bit embarrassed if it happens so I don’t initiate having sex anymore. It makes me feel unattractive. We had a few conversations about it and he said that it happens because he masturbates. He promised to stop doing that so we can have sex but nothing changes. We had this conversation like a few times and it seems that he hasn’t stopped doing it. I asked him if it’s me or he’s not attractive anymore but he says that ain’t the case. I don’t think he is cheating on me and also don’t think he’s gay.
What am I supposed to do? Wearing lingerie or dressing up nice doesn’t affect him because for example if he masturbates in the morning and I look like nice at night he automatically can’t do it anymore. I love having sex but been missing it for years now which makes me very frustrated.
He doesn’t seem to be bothered by it because he never starts the conversation about it and also doesn’t changes his habit.
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