This is kind of a long one. I usually have a very high sex drive while I’m on my period. My husband and I have had sex while I’m on my period on the lighter days/when I’m not in pain, and I’ve always loved it. Having sex on my period feels very vulnerable and intimate to me, and it always turned me on to think that my husband didn’t care that I was on my period.
During my last period, he told me that he doesn’t want to have period sex anymore. He told me it makes him feel “gross” afterwards and that he was only doing it because he felt bad that I was so horny. “Gross” is a very strong word, and it made me feel horrible to feel like he was reluctantly fucking me. I didn’t know he felt like that. I would’ve totally understood if he said, “I don’t like the blood,” because that’s reasonable, but to use the word “gross” was upsetting to me.
Fast forward to last night, I’m nearing the end of my period, and he suggests sex. I told him no, and he was surprised I turned him down, so I explained that I don’t think I can enjoy period sex anymore after he told me he felt gross and never wanted to do it again. He was upset and acted like I was being unreasonable, and explained that if he was offering, it meant he was okay with it. Like it’s not the same as me asking for it and him apparently toughing it out for me.
Am I being overly sensitive about this? Do you guys have period sex with your partners? If so, how did you communicate that you did not want to have period sex with your partner? I’m sure my husband and I will discuss this again, but it’s like he doesn’t understand why I would be so put off of period sex now.
TLDR: used to enjoy period sex, husband suddenly claimed he didn’t want to do it anymore and that it makes him feel gross, but now wants period sex again and I don’t think I can do it anymore.
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r/sex This is kind of a long one. I usually have a very high sex drive while I’m on my period. My husband and I have had sex while I’m on my period on the lighter days/when I’m not in pain, and I’ve always loved it. Having sex on my period feels very vulnerable and intimate to me, and it always turned me on to think that my husband didn’t care that I was on my period. During my last period, he told me that he doesn’t want to have period sex anymore. He told me it makes him feel “gross” afterwards and that he was only doing it because he felt bad that I was so horny. “Gross” is a very strong word, and it made me feel horrible to feel like he was reluctantly fucking me. I didn’t know he felt like that. I would’ve totally understood if he said, “I don’t like the blood,” because that’s reasonable, but to use the word “gross” was upsetting to me. Fast forward to last night, I’m nearing the end of my period, and he suggests sex. I told him no, and he was surprised I turned him down, so I explained that I don’t think I can enjoy period sex anymore after he told me he felt gross and never wanted to do it again. He was upset and acted like I was being unreasonable, and explained that if he was offering, it meant he was okay with it. Like it’s not the same as me asking for it and him apparently toughing it out for me. Am I being overly sensitive about this? Do you guys have period sex with your partners? If so, how did you communicate that you did not want to have period sex with your partner? I’m sure my husband and I will discuss this again, but it’s like he doesn’t understand why I would be so put off of period sex now. TLDR: used to enjoy period sex, husband suddenly claimed he didn’t want to do it anymore and that it makes him feel gross, but now wants period sex again and I don’t think I can do it anymore. submitted by /u/SleepyJeans5 [link] [comments]
This is kind of a long one. I usually have a very high sex drive while I’m on my period. My husband and I have had sex while I’m on my period on the lighter days/when I’m not in pain, and I’ve always loved it. Having sex on my period feels very vulnerable and intimate to me, and it always turned me on to think that my husband didn’t care that I was on my period.
During my last period, he told me that he doesn’t want to have period sex anymore. He told me it makes him feel “gross” afterwards and that he was only doing it because he felt bad that I was so horny. “Gross” is a very strong word, and it made me feel horrible to feel like he was reluctantly fucking me. I didn’t know he felt like that. I would’ve totally understood if he said, “I don’t like the blood,” because that’s reasonable, but to use the word “gross” was upsetting to me.
Fast forward to last night, I’m nearing the end of my period, and he suggests sex. I told him no, and he was surprised I turned him down, so I explained that I don’t think I can enjoy period sex anymore after he told me he felt gross and never wanted to do it again. He was upset and acted like I was being unreasonable, and explained that if he was offering, it meant he was okay with it. Like it’s not the same as me asking for it and him apparently toughing it out for me.
Am I being overly sensitive about this? Do you guys have period sex with your partners? If so, how did you communicate that you did not want to have period sex with your partner? I’m sure my husband and I will discuss this again, but it’s like he doesn’t understand why I would be so put off of period sex now.
TLDR: used to enjoy period sex, husband suddenly claimed he didn’t want to do it anymore and that it makes him feel gross, but now wants period sex again and I don’t think I can do it anymore.
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