I (25f) have been seeing a guy (30m) on and off for about 8 months. In that time, we have both changed and grown, taken time away from each other, and reached out again to meet up.
We dont text all the time, but I feel comfortable around him and I know he does around me also. My experience with guys in the past has been a lot of boundary crossing, pressuring, manipulating, and feeling like I don’t have say. I’ve been told I’m “too invested” when I bring up boundaries. This guy said he “gets pleasure from giving me pleasure” and always puts focus on what I want. He tries to guide me to opening up to my preferences, even though it’s hard for me being a people pleaser. He pays attention to what I like and notices when I’m being triggered and points it out in a up front but kind way. And he’s always straight up with me and takes care of me. I don’t see a romantic connection with him, but I feel like I can finally open up about what I like with someone and explore sex in a healthy way. And I feel like we keep a healthy enough distance that I won’t get attached. Thoughts?
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r/sex I (25f) have been seeing a guy (30m) on and off for about 8 months. In that time, we have both changed and grown, taken time away from each other, and reached out again to meet up. We dont text all the time, but I feel comfortable around him and I know he does around me also. My experience with guys in the past has been a lot of boundary crossing, pressuring, manipulating, and feeling like I don’t have say. I’ve been told I’m “too invested” when I bring up boundaries. This guy said he “gets pleasure from giving me pleasure” and always puts focus on what I want. He tries to guide me to opening up to my preferences, even though it’s hard for me being a people pleaser. He pays attention to what I like and notices when I’m being triggered and points it out in a up front but kind way. And he’s always straight up with me and takes care of me. I don’t see a romantic connection with him, but I feel like I can finally open up about what I like with someone and explore sex in a healthy way. And I feel like we keep a healthy enough distance that I won’t get attached. Thoughts? submitted by /u/DifferentWatch4451 [link] [comments]
I (25f) have been seeing a guy (30m) on and off for about 8 months. In that time, we have both changed and grown, taken time away from each other, and reached out again to meet up.
We dont text all the time, but I feel comfortable around him and I know he does around me also. My experience with guys in the past has been a lot of boundary crossing, pressuring, manipulating, and feeling like I don’t have say. I’ve been told I’m “too invested” when I bring up boundaries. This guy said he “gets pleasure from giving me pleasure” and always puts focus on what I want. He tries to guide me to opening up to my preferences, even though it’s hard for me being a people pleaser. He pays attention to what I like and notices when I’m being triggered and points it out in a up front but kind way. And he’s always straight up with me and takes care of me. I don’t see a romantic connection with him, but I feel like I can finally open up about what I like with someone and explore sex in a healthy way. And I feel like we keep a healthy enough distance that I won’t get attached. Thoughts?
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