we have been together about 2 months and are both 25 years old and we really like each other, it seems like we are perfect for each other, all up until we get into the bedroom. There’s a couple main problems.
The first problem being that she’s extremely insecure about her body and it doesn’t matter what I tell her it just won’t change her mind. She seems really uncomfortable for the most part which I find perplexing because she’s the one who always initiates sex, I want to make it clear I’m not pressuring her into doing something she doesn’t want to do. I just want her to be able to let go and enjoy it but I know she can’t. I don’t get too hung up on this though because it could possibly and will likely get better over time. It’s still a bummer though because sometimes it feels like we are having sex at gunpoint and I really don’t like that feeling.
The second issue is the bigger one for me and the one causing more problems in my head. She can’t orgasm, she says that she’s never had an orgasm with a partner and if I knew that was true I would feel much better but I can’t help but think she’s just saying that to make me feel better. For me I’m more of a giver than anything and when I don’t feel like the person I’m with is enjoying it, I stop enjoying it. Sometimes in the middle of sex she will just stop producing wetness and then in turn I lose my erection and then we are both just sitting there feeling like we’ve done something wrong but it’s just a cause and effect thing. I try to talk to her about it and ask her to guide me better to do things that she enjoys and correct me when I’m doing something wrong or tell me when I’m doing something right but she won’t. She doesn’t show much enthusiasm at all and it just makes me feel terrible. I don’t outwardly get upset with her or anything, I just keep it all in my head but it’s destroying me. I just wish we were as compatible in the bedroom as we are in every other aspect. I think the issue really boils down to the lack of communication on her part but I don’t really know how to get her to communicate with me without being pushy and applying pressure. Like if she were to say “it would make me feel better do it with my shirt on” or “go slower” “go faster” “let’s use a vibrator” then I could work with that but I get nothing from her.
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r/sex we have been together about 2 months and are both 25 years old and we really like each other, it seems like we are perfect for each other, all up until we get into the bedroom. There’s a couple main problems. The first problem being that she’s extremely insecure about her body and it doesn’t matter what I tell her it just won’t change her mind. She seems really uncomfortable for the most part which I find perplexing because she’s the one who always initiates sex, I want to make it clear I’m not pressuring her into doing something she doesn’t want to do. I just want her to be able to let go and enjoy it but I know she can’t. I don’t get too hung up on this though because it could possibly and will likely get better over time. It’s still a bummer though because sometimes it feels like we are having sex at gunpoint and I really don’t like that feeling. The second issue is the bigger one for me and the one causing more problems in my head. She can’t orgasm, she says that she’s never had an orgasm with a partner and if I knew that was true I would feel much better but I can’t help but think she’s just saying that to make me feel better. For me I’m more of a giver than anything and when I don’t feel like the person I’m with is enjoying it, I stop enjoying it. Sometimes in the middle of sex she will just stop producing wetness and then in turn I lose my erection and then we are both just sitting there feeling like we’ve done something wrong but it’s just a cause and effect thing. I try to talk to her about it and ask her to guide me better to do things that she enjoys and correct me when I’m doing something wrong or tell me when I’m doing something right but she won’t. She doesn’t show much enthusiasm at all and it just makes me feel terrible. I don’t outwardly get upset with her or anything, I just keep it all in my head but it’s destroying me. I just wish we were as compatible in the bedroom as we are in every other aspect. I think the issue really boils down to the lack of communication on her part but I don’t really know how to get her to communicate with me without being pushy and applying pressure. Like if she were to say “it would make me feel better do it with my shirt on” or “go slower” “go faster” “let’s use a vibrator” then I could work with that but I get nothing from her. submitted by /u/MeatNew11 [link] [comments]
we have been together about 2 months and are both 25 years old and we really like each other, it seems like we are perfect for each other, all up until we get into the bedroom. There’s a couple main problems.
The first problem being that she’s extremely insecure about her body and it doesn’t matter what I tell her it just won’t change her mind. She seems really uncomfortable for the most part which I find perplexing because she’s the one who always initiates sex, I want to make it clear I’m not pressuring her into doing something she doesn’t want to do. I just want her to be able to let go and enjoy it but I know she can’t. I don’t get too hung up on this though because it could possibly and will likely get better over time. It’s still a bummer though because sometimes it feels like we are having sex at gunpoint and I really don’t like that feeling.
The second issue is the bigger one for me and the one causing more problems in my head. She can’t orgasm, she says that she’s never had an orgasm with a partner and if I knew that was true I would feel much better but I can’t help but think she’s just saying that to make me feel better. For me I’m more of a giver than anything and when I don’t feel like the person I’m with is enjoying it, I stop enjoying it. Sometimes in the middle of sex she will just stop producing wetness and then in turn I lose my erection and then we are both just sitting there feeling like we’ve done something wrong but it’s just a cause and effect thing. I try to talk to her about it and ask her to guide me better to do things that she enjoys and correct me when I’m doing something wrong or tell me when I’m doing something right but she won’t. She doesn’t show much enthusiasm at all and it just makes me feel terrible. I don’t outwardly get upset with her or anything, I just keep it all in my head but it’s destroying me. I just wish we were as compatible in the bedroom as we are in every other aspect. I think the issue really boils down to the lack of communication on her part but I don’t really know how to get her to communicate with me without being pushy and applying pressure. Like if she were to say “it would make me feel better do it with my shirt on” or “go slower” “go faster” “let’s use a vibrator” then I could work with that but I get nothing from her.
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