I (20f) and my boyfriend (21m) have been together for almost 4 years now. I lost my virginity to him when we graduated high school and everything. However, ever since we first started having sex, no matter how turned on I am I have a lot of pain during sex. Almost like a burning tearing sensation, and it’s been like this the whole time! We have tried lube, longer for play, having sex more often but nothing seems to really work!
The only thing that really seems to work is if I focus on staying “open” (?) the whole time but I feel like I can’t really enjoy the sex since I’m so focused on that! I will say he is very blessed in that department, so maybe that has something to do with it? I am really at my wits end because I am starting to fear sex since it hurts so much and my bf feels terrible and hates hurting me, so anyone please help!
Before anyone asks, neither I nor him have an STI. He got tested before we had sex for the first time since he had previous partners in high school.
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r/sex I (20f) and my boyfriend (21m) have been together for almost 4 years now. I lost my virginity to him when we graduated high school and everything. However, ever since we first started having sex, no matter how turned on I am I have a lot of pain during sex. Almost like a burning tearing sensation, and it’s been like this the whole time! We have tried lube, longer for play, having sex more often but nothing seems to really work! The only thing that really seems to work is if I focus on staying “open” (?) the whole time but I feel like I can’t really enjoy the sex since I’m so focused on that! I will say he is very blessed in that department, so maybe that has something to do with it? I am really at my wits end because I am starting to fear sex since it hurts so much and my bf feels terrible and hates hurting me, so anyone please help! Before anyone asks, neither I nor him have an STI. He got tested before we had sex for the first time since he had previous partners in high school. submitted by /u/Conscious_Sir4100 [link] [comments]
I (20f) and my boyfriend (21m) have been together for almost 4 years now. I lost my virginity to him when we graduated high school and everything. However, ever since we first started having sex, no matter how turned on I am I have a lot of pain during sex. Almost like a burning tearing sensation, and it’s been like this the whole time! We have tried lube, longer for play, having sex more often but nothing seems to really work!
The only thing that really seems to work is if I focus on staying “open” (?) the whole time but I feel like I can’t really enjoy the sex since I’m so focused on that! I will say he is very blessed in that department, so maybe that has something to do with it? I am really at my wits end because I am starting to fear sex since it hurts so much and my bf feels terrible and hates hurting me, so anyone please help!
Before anyone asks, neither I nor him have an STI. He got tested before we had sex for the first time since he had previous partners in high school.
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