Okay, this question has probably been asked a thousand times already and there is no objective answer, but still. Boys, how would you react if a girl at 22-23 admitted to you that she was a virgin? Would it be a dealbreaker for you or do you find it rather cute/attractive? Or would you be neutral about it? Is it even necessary to raise this topic with a man and tell him about it?
People tell me that I’m beautiful and interesting. In general, I’m an objectively nice girl, I have a lot of friends, cool job, cool studies, sense of humor, I dress well and all that. But I don’t know, I don’t think guys fall in love with me much. I’ve been asked out on dates and hinted at continuing, but not very often and I’ve never really wanted to continue. Maybe I have too high expectations of love and relationships. Maybe it’s about self-esteem and confidence issues, although I try not to show i have troubles with it. Also I would say from 16 to 22 I had a very intense and busy life with moves to other countries, multiple universities and jobs, and no time or energy for relationships. And as result here I’m, the older I became the more awkward it gets. And I realize that I’m not weird, that I have quite logical answers to why I’m such a late bloomer. But I still feel very insecure despite these reasons.
I don’t know why I feel this way, maybe it’s also from my background. There is no virginity cult in my home country, but it’s considered normal that a girl my age may not have any partners or for example by 30 she may only have 2-3. It’s a norm, not an oddity. But I live in Europe now and it’s like a lot of experience is expected of a girl here. Otherwise you are boring or something is wrong with you.
And when I imagine the situation that at some point I do fall in love, meet HIM and it will come down to sex. And then I’d have to interrupt him and say that I’m virgin. And I so unbearable to imagine this moment that I have idea to sleep with some random guy from Tinder, just to avoid this awkwardness and shame in the future. Of course, I hope I don’t go to such a desperate step after all.
And I understand all of “if it’s a right guy it won’t matter…” and bla bla but I want honest opinion on what would be your reaction
So, how weird is this for you guys anyway? Would it scare you off?
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r/sex Okay, this question has probably been asked a thousand times already and there is no objective answer, but still. Boys, how would you react if a girl at 22-23 admitted to you that she was a virgin? Would it be a dealbreaker for you or do you find it rather cute/attractive? Or would you be neutral about it? Is it even necessary to raise this topic with a man and tell him about it? People tell me that I’m beautiful and interesting. In general, I’m an objectively nice girl, I have a lot of friends, cool job, cool studies, sense of humor, I dress well and all that. But I don’t know, I don’t think guys fall in love with me much. I’ve been asked out on dates and hinted at continuing, but not very often and I’ve never really wanted to continue. Maybe I have too high expectations of love and relationships. Maybe it’s about self-esteem and confidence issues, although I try not to show i have troubles with it. Also I would say from 16 to 22 I had a very intense and busy life with moves to other countries, multiple universities and jobs, and no time or energy for relationships. And as result here I’m, the older I became the more awkward it gets. And I realize that I’m not weird, that I have quite logical answers to why I’m such a late bloomer. But I still feel very insecure despite these reasons. I don’t know why I feel this way, maybe it’s also from my background. There is no virginity cult in my home country, but it’s considered normal that a girl my age may not have any partners or for example by 30 she may only have 2-3. It’s a norm, not an oddity. But I live in Europe now and it’s like a lot of experience is expected of a girl here. Otherwise you are boring or something is wrong with you. And when I imagine the situation that at some point I do fall in love, meet HIM and it will come down to sex. And then I’d have to interrupt him and say that I’m virgin. And I so unbearable to imagine this moment that I have idea to sleep with some random guy from Tinder, just to avoid this awkwardness and shame in the future. Of course, I hope I don’t go to such a desperate step after all. And I understand all of “if it’s a right guy it won’t matter…” and bla bla but I want honest opinion on what would be your reaction So, how weird is this for you guys anyway? Would it scare you off? submitted by /u/Iam_just_a_girl [link] [comments]
Okay, this question has probably been asked a thousand times already and there is no objective answer, but still. Boys, how would you react if a girl at 22-23 admitted to you that she was a virgin? Would it be a dealbreaker for you or do you find it rather cute/attractive? Or would you be neutral about it? Is it even necessary to raise this topic with a man and tell him about it?
People tell me that I’m beautiful and interesting. In general, I’m an objectively nice girl, I have a lot of friends, cool job, cool studies, sense of humor, I dress well and all that. But I don’t know, I don’t think guys fall in love with me much. I’ve been asked out on dates and hinted at continuing, but not very often and I’ve never really wanted to continue. Maybe I have too high expectations of love and relationships. Maybe it’s about self-esteem and confidence issues, although I try not to show i have troubles with it. Also I would say from 16 to 22 I had a very intense and busy life with moves to other countries, multiple universities and jobs, and no time or energy for relationships. And as result here I’m, the older I became the more awkward it gets. And I realize that I’m not weird, that I have quite logical answers to why I’m such a late bloomer. But I still feel very insecure despite these reasons.
I don’t know why I feel this way, maybe it’s also from my background. There is no virginity cult in my home country, but it’s considered normal that a girl my age may not have any partners or for example by 30 she may only have 2-3. It’s a norm, not an oddity. But I live in Europe now and it’s like a lot of experience is expected of a girl here. Otherwise you are boring or something is wrong with you.
And when I imagine the situation that at some point I do fall in love, meet HIM and it will come down to sex. And then I’d have to interrupt him and say that I’m virgin. And I so unbearable to imagine this moment that I have idea to sleep with some random guy from Tinder, just to avoid this awkwardness and shame in the future. Of course, I hope I don’t go to such a desperate step after all.
And I understand all of “if it’s a right guy it won’t matter…” and bla bla but I want honest opinion on what would be your reaction
So, how weird is this for you guys anyway? Would it scare you off?
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