Nervous and unsure how to approach my girlfriend and i’s sex. /u/Icy-Cage Sex

I (23F) and my girlfriend (22F), have been in a relationship for 2 years now. I have never been able to cum during our sex. this isn’t something that bothers her (to my knowledge). I am able to make her cum. For a while I had only been able to cum to porn, which i then “cut” to just erotic audio, and as of now i’ve been off of both of these for a while. The thing is I haven’t masturbated much since going off of them. I have, twice, and was able to get myself to finish with two toys acting simultaneously.. I’ve never been able to make myself finish with just my hand alone. That’s a bit of background on my sexual history/where I’m at now.

I really want to cum for/by my girlfriend. I’m just nervous to approach this with her. Since I haven’t been able to cum, i’ve definitely added a bit of a performance to our sex life. Which is reality is just that I’ll breathe heavier and maybe moan here and there. However since trying to cum with her, I’ve gotten a lot more quiet — since I’m really trying to focus. There’s a couple of issues. When she fucks me, it’s usually straight into penetrating with her fingers. I do get wet, but when she goes rough i start bleeding. When it’s too soft I can’t really feel it. I don’t know how to tell her this. I get so stuck in my head about telling her what feels good because i don’t even really know myself what does.

I want to tell her to use both toys on me, because i think that might work — but then, i’m scared to ask her to do that.

I just feel quite paralyzed by fear, anxiety she will think i’m too “perverse” for needing to use two toys at once, i don’t know. I know in reality she won’t think that — she’s very understanding and kind.

How would you go about talking to her about these things? Is anything i’m feeling bad? Part of me feels like i should be able to get off by her fingers alone. I feel like i’m in such a deep hole and I have no idea how to get myself out of it. We don’t even have sex very often.. Maybe once every two months..

TL;DR – having issues cumming, relaxing, and being authentic during sex with my gf.

I (23F) and my girlfriend (22F), have been in a relationship for 2 years now. I have never been able to cum during our sex. this isn’t something that bothers her (to my knowledge). I am able to make her cum. For a while I had only been able to cum to porn, which i then “cut” to just erotic audio, and as of now i’ve been off of both of these for a while. The thing is I haven’t masturbated much since going off of them. I have, twice, and was able to get myself to finish with two toys acting simultaneously.. I’ve never been able to make myself finish with just my hand alone. That’s a bit of background on my sexual history/where I’m at now.

I really want to cum for/by my girlfriend. I’m just nervous to approach this with her. Since I haven’t been able to cum, i’ve definitely added a bit of a performance to our sex life. Which is reality is just that I’ll breathe heavier and maybe moan here and there. However since trying to cum with her, I’ve gotten a lot more quiet — since I’m really trying to focus. There’s a couple of issues. When she fucks me, it’s usually straight into penetrating with her fingers. I do get wet, but when she goes rough i start bleeding. When it’s too soft I can’t really feel it. I don’t know how to tell her this. I get so stuck in my head about telling her what feels good because i don’t even really know myself what does.

I want to tell her to use both toys on me, because i think that might work — but then, i’m scared to ask her to do that.

I just feel quite paralyzed by fear, anxiety she will think i’m too “perverse” for needing to use two toys at once, i don’t know. I know in reality she won’t think that — she’s very understanding and kind.

How would you go about talking to her about these things? Is anything i’m feeling bad? Part of me feels like i should be able to get off by her fingers alone. I feel like i’m in such a deep hole and I have no idea how to get myself out of it. We don’t even have sex very often.. Maybe once every two months..

TL;DR – having issues cumming, relaxing, and being authentic during sex with my gf.