I’m (37M) usually in a longterm relationship but have been single for a little over 2 years now and I’m enjoying it, single by choice might I add. The first year being single I had zero issues in the bedroom, had a rebound then a fwb. Once that ended around Feb of last year I did some reflecting & realized I wasn’t the greatest bf/ person.
After taking accountability I feel as though something happened. When I’ve had sex since Feb I don’t perform like I used to. I would last at least 30-45 mins & much longer but now I’m lasting only 5-10 mins. Once it starts I feel as though I don’t wanna be there. I start missing my ex & feel as if I’m cheating. Perhaps I’m getting what I deserve & it’s karma catching up to me. Also my erections don’t feel as strong, I’m hard but it’s not as full as it could be. When I masturbate I have great erections so that’s not the problem. It’s like some mental hurdle I’m dealing with right now. I honestly thought it was a connection issue like maybe I need a strong connection to perform like I can but I had sex with someone I have a connection with & still only lasted 5-10 mins.
Has anyone gone through something like this? Maybe seeing my ex again will give me the closure I didn’t know I needed to move on. We have two kids together & I’ll be moving near her soon. We haven’t seen each other in 2 years. Also maybe I do need a stronger connection or a relationship to perform like the old me because I’m normally in a serious relationship so perhaps I’ve been single for far too long.
Although I love my ex, I don’t wanna be with her. Our chapter is closed
Thanks in advance
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r/sex I’m (37M) usually in a longterm relationship but have been single for a little over 2 years now and I’m enjoying it, single by choice might I add. The first year being single I had zero issues in the bedroom, had a rebound then a fwb. Once that ended around Feb of last year I did some reflecting & realized I wasn’t the greatest bf/ person. After taking accountability I feel as though something happened. When I’ve had sex since Feb I don’t perform like I used to. I would last at least 30-45 mins & much longer but now I’m lasting only 5-10 mins. Once it starts I feel as though I don’t wanna be there. I start missing my ex & feel as if I’m cheating. Perhaps I’m getting what I deserve & it’s karma catching up to me. Also my erections don’t feel as strong, I’m hard but it’s not as full as it could be. When I masturbate I have great erections so that’s not the problem. It’s like some mental hurdle I’m dealing with right now. I honestly thought it was a connection issue like maybe I need a strong connection to perform like I can but I had sex with someone I have a connection with & still only lasted 5-10 mins. Has anyone gone through something like this? Maybe seeing my ex again will give me the closure I didn’t know I needed to move on. We have two kids together & I’ll be moving near her soon. We haven’t seen each other in 2 years. Also maybe I do need a stronger connection or a relationship to perform like the old me because I’m normally in a serious relationship so perhaps I’ve been single for far too long. Although I love my ex, I don’t wanna be with her. Our chapter is closed Thanks in advance submitted by /u/Patient_Silver_7166 [link] [comments]
I’m (37M) usually in a longterm relationship but have been single for a little over 2 years now and I’m enjoying it, single by choice might I add. The first year being single I had zero issues in the bedroom, had a rebound then a fwb. Once that ended around Feb of last year I did some reflecting & realized I wasn’t the greatest bf/ person.
After taking accountability I feel as though something happened. When I’ve had sex since Feb I don’t perform like I used to. I would last at least 30-45 mins & much longer but now I’m lasting only 5-10 mins. Once it starts I feel as though I don’t wanna be there. I start missing my ex & feel as if I’m cheating. Perhaps I’m getting what I deserve & it’s karma catching up to me. Also my erections don’t feel as strong, I’m hard but it’s not as full as it could be. When I masturbate I have great erections so that’s not the problem. It’s like some mental hurdle I’m dealing with right now. I honestly thought it was a connection issue like maybe I need a strong connection to perform like I can but I had sex with someone I have a connection with & still only lasted 5-10 mins.
Has anyone gone through something like this? Maybe seeing my ex again will give me the closure I didn’t know I needed to move on. We have two kids together & I’ll be moving near her soon. We haven’t seen each other in 2 years. Also maybe I do need a stronger connection or a relationship to perform like the old me because I’m normally in a serious relationship so perhaps I’ve been single for far too long.
Although I love my ex, I don’t wanna be with her. Our chapter is closed
Thanks in advance
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