So me (21F) and my bf (22M) have been together about a year. He was the first person I’ve ever had sex with. I’ve only finished twice our whole relationship. mainly from clitoral stimulation. i got in the bad habit early on to fake orgasms because i felt like it took me too long to finish and i thought it was something wrong with me, so i faked it to give him the satisfaction. i don’t think he does a bad job, i just think it takes me too long to finish and i feel bad making him do it for so long just so i can finish. but now it’s gotten to the point where i really wish i could orgasm, so for a period of time i stopped faking, but we would still have sex and i still wouldn’t finish. but i didn’t fake it either? so we have been having sex a lot without me finishing. and i think he knows? but we don’t talk about it? like it’s still enjoyable for me, but i’m too embarrassed to show him what i like. i’m embarrassed because early in our relationship, i introduced the vibrator, because that helps me a lot. and it made him feel insecure like he wasn’t enough to make me finish, so now i’m afraid that whatever i do or say will make him insecure, or even ruin our sex life. We also don’t have sex as much as i’d like to. i think he doesn’t have a very strong sex drive, he doesn’t even masturbate?? so it seems we’re on two different levels. any advice would be great. i just need to talk about it.
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r/sex So me (21F) and my bf (22M) have been together about a year. He was the first person I’ve ever had sex with. I’ve only finished twice our whole relationship. mainly from clitoral stimulation. i got in the bad habit early on to fake orgasms because i felt like it took me too long to finish and i thought it was something wrong with me, so i faked it to give him the satisfaction. i don’t think he does a bad job, i just think it takes me too long to finish and i feel bad making him do it for so long just so i can finish. but now it’s gotten to the point where i really wish i could orgasm, so for a period of time i stopped faking, but we would still have sex and i still wouldn’t finish. but i didn’t fake it either? so we have been having sex a lot without me finishing. and i think he knows? but we don’t talk about it? like it’s still enjoyable for me, but i’m too embarrassed to show him what i like. i’m embarrassed because early in our relationship, i introduced the vibrator, because that helps me a lot. and it made him feel insecure like he wasn’t enough to make me finish, so now i’m afraid that whatever i do or say will make him insecure, or even ruin our sex life. We also don’t have sex as much as i’d like to. i think he doesn’t have a very strong sex drive, he doesn’t even masturbate?? so it seems we’re on two different levels. any advice would be great. i just need to talk about it. submitted by /u/SideGlittering847 [link] [comments]
So me (21F) and my bf (22M) have been together about a year. He was the first person I’ve ever had sex with. I’ve only finished twice our whole relationship. mainly from clitoral stimulation. i got in the bad habit early on to fake orgasms because i felt like it took me too long to finish and i thought it was something wrong with me, so i faked it to give him the satisfaction. i don’t think he does a bad job, i just think it takes me too long to finish and i feel bad making him do it for so long just so i can finish. but now it’s gotten to the point where i really wish i could orgasm, so for a period of time i stopped faking, but we would still have sex and i still wouldn’t finish. but i didn’t fake it either? so we have been having sex a lot without me finishing. and i think he knows? but we don’t talk about it? like it’s still enjoyable for me, but i’m too embarrassed to show him what i like. i’m embarrassed because early in our relationship, i introduced the vibrator, because that helps me a lot. and it made him feel insecure like he wasn’t enough to make me finish, so now i’m afraid that whatever i do or say will make him insecure, or even ruin our sex life. We also don’t have sex as much as i’d like to. i think he doesn’t have a very strong sex drive, he doesn’t even masturbate?? so it seems we’re on two different levels. any advice would be great. i just need to talk about it.
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