Hi!
I’ve been (23m) with my gf (23f) for about 3 years now. Relation outside sex is good, but it hits a weird spot with everything concerning sex. I’ve seen many cases like this on this subreddit but nonetheless I want to try and hear other opinion on the matter.
Ever since we started to have sex, about 6 months into the relationship (we were both virgins), she had slight hurt when first initiating penetration and after a random amount of time. We were pretty inexperienced and started doing proper foreplay and using lube, but the issue didn’t go away.
To make an example, we start having sex, the initial penetration NEVER happens if I’m not lubed enough and it will ALWAYS hurt for her. We start missionary, she cums almost 2 minutes in and after 5/6 minutes we switch positions, usually going from the back or some other variation of missionary where I’m in the dominant position. If I manage to finish in the next minutes then we stop, otherwise she says it starts hurting and i stop immediately, finishing me off by hand.
In her position, I would immediately have gone to a gynecologist. I talked about this with her multiple times and she continues to put it off. Bear in mind that she’s already been to a gynecologist before to start taking the pill, so I would exclude it is a problem regarding shyness.
Personally I’m starting to get to a point where I’m heavily anxious during sex. I never know when the moment will come when i just have to stop and I’ll frequently ask if she’s in pain. I know she tells me to stop when it becomes unbearable, meaning that at some point it started hurting and she didn’t tell me, no matter how many times i press her about just telling me to stop if it isn’t pleasurable for her.
What would be the cause of this kind of behaviour? Is there possibly something so bad that she can’t tell me about because she’s afraid?
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r/sex Hi! I’ve been (23m) with my gf (23f) for about 3 years now. Relation outside sex is good, but it hits a weird spot with everything concerning sex. I’ve seen many cases like this on this subreddit but nonetheless I want to try and hear other opinion on the matter. Ever since we started to have sex, about 6 months into the relationship (we were both virgins), she had slight hurt when first initiating penetration and after a random amount of time. We were pretty inexperienced and started doing proper foreplay and using lube, but the issue didn’t go away. To make an example, we start having sex, the initial penetration NEVER happens if I’m not lubed enough and it will ALWAYS hurt for her. We start missionary, she cums almost 2 minutes in and after 5/6 minutes we switch positions, usually going from the back or some other variation of missionary where I’m in the dominant position. If I manage to finish in the next minutes then we stop, otherwise she says it starts hurting and i stop immediately, finishing me off by hand. In her position, I would immediately have gone to a gynecologist. I talked about this with her multiple times and she continues to put it off. Bear in mind that she’s already been to a gynecologist before to start taking the pill, so I would exclude it is a problem regarding shyness. Personally I’m starting to get to a point where I’m heavily anxious during sex. I never know when the moment will come when i just have to stop and I’ll frequently ask if she’s in pain. I know she tells me to stop when it becomes unbearable, meaning that at some point it started hurting and she didn’t tell me, no matter how many times i press her about just telling me to stop if it isn’t pleasurable for her. What would be the cause of this kind of behaviour? Is there possibly something so bad that she can’t tell me about because she’s afraid? submitted by /u/Exotic_Smoke1071 [link] [comments]
Hi!
I’ve been (23m) with my gf (23f) for about 3 years now. Relation outside sex is good, but it hits a weird spot with everything concerning sex. I’ve seen many cases like this on this subreddit but nonetheless I want to try and hear other opinion on the matter.
Ever since we started to have sex, about 6 months into the relationship (we were both virgins), she had slight hurt when first initiating penetration and after a random amount of time. We were pretty inexperienced and started doing proper foreplay and using lube, but the issue didn’t go away.
To make an example, we start having sex, the initial penetration NEVER happens if I’m not lubed enough and it will ALWAYS hurt for her. We start missionary, she cums almost 2 minutes in and after 5/6 minutes we switch positions, usually going from the back or some other variation of missionary where I’m in the dominant position. If I manage to finish in the next minutes then we stop, otherwise she says it starts hurting and i stop immediately, finishing me off by hand.
In her position, I would immediately have gone to a gynecologist. I talked about this with her multiple times and she continues to put it off. Bear in mind that she’s already been to a gynecologist before to start taking the pill, so I would exclude it is a problem regarding shyness.
Personally I’m starting to get to a point where I’m heavily anxious during sex. I never know when the moment will come when i just have to stop and I’ll frequently ask if she’s in pain. I know she tells me to stop when it becomes unbearable, meaning that at some point it started hurting and she didn’t tell me, no matter how many times i press her about just telling me to stop if it isn’t pleasurable for her.
What would be the cause of this kind of behaviour? Is there possibly something so bad that she can’t tell me about because she’s afraid?
submitted by /u/Exotic_Smoke1071
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