Is there someone you can talk to 1 on 1 about your situation? /u/sick_prada97 CSCQ protests reddit

To be clear, I already know the practical answer to this. Yes, there are consultants and sites like codementor for on demand mentorship. I guess the point of this post is being frustrated with the help I’ve been receiving and wanting to get out of the metaphorical pit so to speak that I’ve been in. Maybe some of you fine folks will have some unique insight?

I won’t bother writing an essay about my life story since no one will read it, but I really want someone to hear who I am and offer some kind of guidance in my CS journey (currently an underemployed DevOps Engineer. Feel free to ask for more context if needed). I’m tired of the echo chamber that is Reddit. I know it’s ironic posting here when I say I hate the echo chamber. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I saw a post like this below, and I got scared man.

https://www.reddit.com/r/jobs/s/aTJ223B2UI

I’ve been looking for a job for 1.5 years too like the other post indicates, and I know that’s nothing new. I know everyone here is saying “CS is cooked bruv” and throwing out terms like “oversaturation” and “get out of the rat race”. To combat that, I sought the advice of real people I could talk to. I talked to 3 different guys, and as you might imagine, they all have different answers. One said, “I don’t know kid, I’d at least interview you and give you a chance. Not sure why you can’t get interviews.” Another said, “You’re not giving enough oomph” whatever that means… Asked for more context but wouldn’t answer, so beats me. And then another said I ought to consider reading Amazon’s leadership principles on their website? I’m sure they all meant well, but none of this is advice I can use. Maybe I should not have been surprised, but I really thought things could be different if I veered out of the echo chamber on Reddit.

I’m already in therapy to discuss how I feel about my inability to find a job and I don’t know how to move forward. I also stubbornly do not want another career. Maybe I’m missing out, but I genuinely do not like other careers when I have researched other things like accounting, architecture, even trades like plumbing and electrician. I get satisfaction out of problem solving a line of code not working or writing a shell script to automate backups or cleanups. I feel like I accomplished something and I don’t want to go to another career, but I also hate being in the sea of many white, male, and 20s pool of applicants where I probably don’t stand out.

Man, where can I find a mentor? A real person who I can build a relationship and/or rapport with. I guess that’s my real question, even if it can’t be answered. I know the obvious “duh” answer is networking. I have been to the best of my ability, and I seem to be unable to build relationships like that.

TL:DR; Sought the advice of mentors to combat job search inability, and got what I feel to be inadequate advice. Is there some way to find better advice beyond the echo chamber of Reddit?

To be clear, I already know the practical answer to this. Yes, there are consultants and sites like codementor for on demand mentorship. I guess the point of this post is being frustrated with the help I’ve been receiving and wanting to get out of the metaphorical pit so to speak that I’ve been in. Maybe some of you fine folks will have some unique insight?

I won’t bother writing an essay about my life story since no one will read it, but I really want someone to hear who I am and offer some kind of guidance in my CS journey (currently an underemployed DevOps Engineer. Feel free to ask for more context if needed). I’m tired of the echo chamber that is Reddit. I know it’s ironic posting here when I say I hate the echo chamber. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I saw a post like this below, and I got scared man.

https://www.reddit.com/r/jobs/s/aTJ223B2UI

I’ve been looking for a job for 1.5 years too like the other post indicates, and I know that’s nothing new. I know everyone here is saying “CS is cooked bruv” and throwing out terms like “oversaturation” and “get out of the rat race”. To combat that, I sought the advice of real people I could talk to. I talked to 3 different guys, and as you might imagine, they all have different answers. One said, “I don’t know kid, I’d at least interview you and give you a chance. Not sure why you can’t get interviews.” Another said, “You’re not giving enough oomph” whatever that means… Asked for more context but wouldn’t answer, so beats me. And then another said I ought to consider reading Amazon’s leadership principles on their website? I’m sure they all meant well, but none of this is advice I can use. Maybe I should not have been surprised, but I really thought things could be different if I veered out of the echo chamber on Reddit.

I’m already in therapy to discuss how I feel about my inability to find a job and I don’t know how to move forward. I also stubbornly do not want another career. Maybe I’m missing out, but I genuinely do not like other careers when I have researched other things like accounting, architecture, even trades like plumbing and electrician. I get satisfaction out of problem solving a line of code not working or writing a shell script to automate backups or cleanups. I feel like I accomplished something and I don’t want to go to another career, but I also hate being in the sea of many white, male, and 20s pool of applicants where I probably don’t stand out.

Man, where can I find a mentor? A real person who I can build a relationship and/or rapport with. I guess that’s my real question, even if it can’t be answered. I know the obvious “duh” answer is networking. I have been to the best of my ability, and I seem to be unable to build relationships like that.

TL:DR; Sought the advice of mentors to combat job search inability, and got what I feel to be inadequate advice. Is there some way to find better advice beyond the echo chamber of Reddit?