specifically, i (25F) get bad period cramps including breast soreness. ive asked my boyfriend (M33) to massage me there a couple times, and each time he awkwardly pats or very lightly pets the area until i tell him to just stop, but today he told me he’s uncomfortable with doing this. he’s great at massaging me anywhere else– my back, neck, face, butt, etc. just won’t do my breasts for some reason, and when he does he just kind of pats or pets the area. i’ve asked him about this before and he says it’s just a bit of an uncommon request and he isn’t used to touching that area in a non-sexual way. today he also said when i move his hand away and tell him to “just stop” it makes him feel worse. i haven’t had many serious relationships, so i’m just wondering- is this an uncommon request? have your partners asked you for breast massages and if so, do you feel comfortable giving them? any advice on how i can approach this with my man going forward? 😅 i told him that my perspective is that it makes me feel gross/untouchable when he won’t do this for me without explaining why, but obviously i don’t want to force him to do something that will make him uncomfortable and that i am sorry for getting frustrated with his attempts and i’m grateful he “tried” even though he didn’t feel comfortable. he says he’s never had a girlfriend ask him to do this before and that it’s not a usual request. we do have an active sex life and he’s never awkward around my body during sex, so i’m just so surprised this sudden weirdness is happening between us. we’ve been dating for 2 years. i’m feeling really embarrassed for asking him to do something weird or that makes him uncomfortable with my body.
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r/sex specifically, i (25F) get bad period cramps including breast soreness. ive asked my boyfriend (M33) to massage me there a couple times, and each time he awkwardly pats or very lightly pets the area until i tell him to just stop, but today he told me he’s uncomfortable with doing this. he’s great at massaging me anywhere else– my back, neck, face, butt, etc. just won’t do my breasts for some reason, and when he does he just kind of pats or pets the area. i’ve asked him about this before and he says it’s just a bit of an uncommon request and he isn’t used to touching that area in a non-sexual way. today he also said when i move his hand away and tell him to “just stop” it makes him feel worse. i haven’t had many serious relationships, so i’m just wondering- is this an uncommon request? have your partners asked you for breast massages and if so, do you feel comfortable giving them? any advice on how i can approach this with my man going forward? 😅 i told him that my perspective is that it makes me feel gross/untouchable when he won’t do this for me without explaining why, but obviously i don’t want to force him to do something that will make him uncomfortable and that i am sorry for getting frustrated with his attempts and i’m grateful he “tried” even though he didn’t feel comfortable. he says he’s never had a girlfriend ask him to do this before and that it’s not a usual request. we do have an active sex life and he’s never awkward around my body during sex, so i’m just so surprised this sudden weirdness is happening between us. we’ve been dating for 2 years. i’m feeling really embarrassed for asking him to do something weird or that makes him uncomfortable with my body. submitted by /u/No-Abroad-8380 [link] [comments]
specifically, i (25F) get bad period cramps including breast soreness. ive asked my boyfriend (M33) to massage me there a couple times, and each time he awkwardly pats or very lightly pets the area until i tell him to just stop, but today he told me he’s uncomfortable with doing this. he’s great at massaging me anywhere else– my back, neck, face, butt, etc. just won’t do my breasts for some reason, and when he does he just kind of pats or pets the area. i’ve asked him about this before and he says it’s just a bit of an uncommon request and he isn’t used to touching that area in a non-sexual way. today he also said when i move his hand away and tell him to “just stop” it makes him feel worse. i haven’t had many serious relationships, so i’m just wondering- is this an uncommon request? have your partners asked you for breast massages and if so, do you feel comfortable giving them? any advice on how i can approach this with my man going forward? 😅 i told him that my perspective is that it makes me feel gross/untouchable when he won’t do this for me without explaining why, but obviously i don’t want to force him to do something that will make him uncomfortable and that i am sorry for getting frustrated with his attempts and i’m grateful he “tried” even though he didn’t feel comfortable. he says he’s never had a girlfriend ask him to do this before and that it’s not a usual request. we do have an active sex life and he’s never awkward around my body during sex, so i’m just so surprised this sudden weirdness is happening between us. we’ve been dating for 2 years. i’m feeling really embarrassed for asking him to do something weird or that makes him uncomfortable with my body.
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