Me and my GF gave been together for 1 year and a 1 month now. We’re both only just learning what love, being vulnerable and being open is, so we’ve been taking things slow. We have been having non-penetrative sex for some time now, just taking our time to explore and learn what we like and how we feel about things. The thing is, I think we both feel we’re ready for it, but nobody is taking the initiative. And it can’t happen without words. I need verbal confirmation. I know she wants it, I can see it in her eyes. I don’t want to be the first one to say it, because I don’t want to put this new pressure on her that she absolutely doesn’t need. She might subconsciously think that she wants to do it BECAUSE I say that I want it, and I don’t want that. She needs to be the one that says it. The problem is, she’s not the type to say it. Sometimes it’s like she wants to say something, and we exchange a lingering look, but then she can’t, and I just change the subject to take this pain away from her.
I want to add, I don’t mind not having penetrative sex at all, I’m already amazingly happy with what we have. But, if we both want it, I need to solve this.
Any advice is appreciated.
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r/sex Me and my GF gave been together for 1 year and a 1 month now. We’re both only just learning what love, being vulnerable and being open is, so we’ve been taking things slow. We have been having non-penetrative sex for some time now, just taking our time to explore and learn what we like and how we feel about things. The thing is, I think we both feel we’re ready for it, but nobody is taking the initiative. And it can’t happen without words. I need verbal confirmation. I know she wants it, I can see it in her eyes. I don’t want to be the first one to say it, because I don’t want to put this new pressure on her that she absolutely doesn’t need. She might subconsciously think that she wants to do it BECAUSE I say that I want it, and I don’t want that. She needs to be the one that says it. The problem is, she’s not the type to say it. Sometimes it’s like she wants to say something, and we exchange a lingering look, but then she can’t, and I just change the subject to take this pain away from her. I want to add, I don’t mind not having penetrative sex at all, I’m already amazingly happy with what we have. But, if we both want it, I need to solve this. Any advice is appreciated. submitted by /u/raggedmephobia [link] [comments]
Me and my GF gave been together for 1 year and a 1 month now. We’re both only just learning what love, being vulnerable and being open is, so we’ve been taking things slow. We have been having non-penetrative sex for some time now, just taking our time to explore and learn what we like and how we feel about things. The thing is, I think we both feel we’re ready for it, but nobody is taking the initiative. And it can’t happen without words. I need verbal confirmation. I know she wants it, I can see it in her eyes. I don’t want to be the first one to say it, because I don’t want to put this new pressure on her that she absolutely doesn’t need. She might subconsciously think that she wants to do it BECAUSE I say that I want it, and I don’t want that. She needs to be the one that says it. The problem is, she’s not the type to say it. Sometimes it’s like she wants to say something, and we exchange a lingering look, but then she can’t, and I just change the subject to take this pain away from her.
I want to add, I don’t mind not having penetrative sex at all, I’m already amazingly happy with what we have. But, if we both want it, I need to solve this.
Any advice is appreciated.
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