Sensitive clit makes everything difficult /u/dusty-crust Sex

Cis woman, late 20s, otherwise enjoyable sex life. Zero vaginal pain. Severe, limiting clitoral sensitivity.

I feel like something is wrong with me. I’ve just tried my third clit sucker toy – you know, one of those that are life changing, orgasm guaranteed, best thing that ever happened – to other people. When I use one of them on my clit, it feels like someone is slapping it. I’m only ever able to use them indirectly, above the clitoral glans, on the shaft. It’s not good, but it can get me off without any particular satisfaction.

I’ve always been sensitive, masturbated by indirect touch, and I have no trouble getting myself off by my fingers. But every single sex toy I’ve tried is too intense for my clit, and it just makes me so frustrated. Every single sex partner had been too rough initially, then forgotten several times that I need a very gentle touch. Oral sex does nothing for me, either – I need pressure, not friction. The repeated lack of understanding for this is reinforcing the feeling of my being wrong.

I don’t know why I am like this and I don’t know what to do about it. If anyone relates, I’d love all kinds of advice, from how to make people understand I need an incredibly gentle touch, to sex toys that might actually be useful.

Cis woman, late 20s, otherwise enjoyable sex life. Zero vaginal pain. Severe, limiting clitoral sensitivity.

I feel like something is wrong with me. I’ve just tried my third clit sucker toy – you know, one of those that are life changing, orgasm guaranteed, best thing that ever happened – to other people. When I use one of them on my clit, it feels like someone is slapping it. I’m only ever able to use them indirectly, above the clitoral glans, on the shaft. It’s not good, but it can get me off without any particular satisfaction.

I’ve always been sensitive, masturbated by indirect touch, and I have no trouble getting myself off by my fingers. But every single sex toy I’ve tried is too intense for my clit, and it just makes me so frustrated. Every single sex partner had been too rough initially, then forgotten several times that I need a very gentle touch. Oral sex does nothing for me, either – I need pressure, not friction. The repeated lack of understanding for this is reinforcing the feeling of my being wrong.

I don’t know why I am like this and I don’t know what to do about it. If anyone relates, I’d love all kinds of advice, from how to make people understand I need an incredibly gentle touch, to sex toys that might actually be useful.