(28M & 36F).
My Girlfriend has communicated that she would like the Sex to sometimes “escalate” even slower because she had been going a little faster for me. She wants to be able to initiate the way she likes it. I like the idea of her initiating and have been doing my best to be patient and letting her decide how fast we go but it’s taking so long that I’m losing any arousal I had before.
She likes teasing, hesitating, taking a step back every now and then but it’s confusing to me and kinda frustrating physically, especially the going backwards part. I just lose interest. I enjoy teasing, even slow, as long as I feel like it’s going somewhere.
It’s making her insecure to a point where we have to stop. She feels like she can’t ever initiate the way she likes it even though I LOVE the idea of her initiating sex.
I’m also very frustrated because I feel like I can never really let go. When I’m in control I’m very focused on her, but if I let go and let her have control, I’m too passive for her, make her insecure and we stop right away. I want to feel desired too and have someone do stuff just for me, without me having to be active and attentive at all times.
I don’t know how to find the common ground here where we both get what we need?
We have talked about it a lot and we have still more to talk about but I’d love some perspective on this.
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r/sex (28M & 36F). My Girlfriend has communicated that she would like the Sex to sometimes “escalate” even slower because she had been going a little faster for me. She wants to be able to initiate the way she likes it. I like the idea of her initiating and have been doing my best to be patient and letting her decide how fast we go but it’s taking so long that I’m losing any arousal I had before. She likes teasing, hesitating, taking a step back every now and then but it’s confusing to me and kinda frustrating physically, especially the going backwards part. I just lose interest. I enjoy teasing, even slow, as long as I feel like it’s going somewhere. It’s making her insecure to a point where we have to stop. She feels like she can’t ever initiate the way she likes it even though I LOVE the idea of her initiating sex. I’m also very frustrated because I feel like I can never really let go. When I’m in control I’m very focused on her, but if I let go and let her have control, I’m too passive for her, make her insecure and we stop right away. I want to feel desired too and have someone do stuff just for me, without me having to be active and attentive at all times. I don’t know how to find the common ground here where we both get what we need? We have talked about it a lot and we have still more to talk about but I’d love some perspective on this. submitted by /u/Diven_P [link] [comments]
(28M & 36F).
My Girlfriend has communicated that she would like the Sex to sometimes “escalate” even slower because she had been going a little faster for me. She wants to be able to initiate the way she likes it. I like the idea of her initiating and have been doing my best to be patient and letting her decide how fast we go but it’s taking so long that I’m losing any arousal I had before.
She likes teasing, hesitating, taking a step back every now and then but it’s confusing to me and kinda frustrating physically, especially the going backwards part. I just lose interest. I enjoy teasing, even slow, as long as I feel like it’s going somewhere.
It’s making her insecure to a point where we have to stop. She feels like she can’t ever initiate the way she likes it even though I LOVE the idea of her initiating sex.
I’m also very frustrated because I feel like I can never really let go. When I’m in control I’m very focused on her, but if I let go and let her have control, I’m too passive for her, make her insecure and we stop right away. I want to feel desired too and have someone do stuff just for me, without me having to be active and attentive at all times.
I don’t know how to find the common ground here where we both get what we need?
We have talked about it a lot and we have still more to talk about but I’d love some perspective on this.
submitted by /u/Diven_P
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