I [45M] have been married to my wife [44F] for 15 years now and I’ve always been attracted to slightly “bigger” curvy women and my wife was one of those types. But her weight has yoyo’d over the years and now she’s plus 70lbs and has a rather large obese belly that flops over her waistline and to be brutally honest it’s become a huge turn off. I try to be supportive and I never criticize her weight, and I’m still very much emotionally attracted to her, but seeing and touching her body does the opposite. And before anyone accuses me of double standards, I’m a healthy weight. The real kicker is she was very sexually active in her 20’s while I was not, and while I’d like to make up for what I missed out on, I find myself having to initiate most of the time now. It’s like she had her fun in her youth and is over it and settled down now and would rather play on her phone than initiate sex. I’m at a loss of how to turn things around when she is not inclined to start anything, I’m not turned on physically, and I don’t want to be the jerk that demands she lose a ton of weight but it’s probably what needs to happen for her own health.
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r/sex I [45M] have been married to my wife [44F] for 15 years now and I’ve always been attracted to slightly “bigger” curvy women and my wife was one of those types. But her weight has yoyo’d over the years and now she’s plus 70lbs and has a rather large obese belly that flops over her waistline and to be brutally honest it’s become a huge turn off. I try to be supportive and I never criticize her weight, and I’m still very much emotionally attracted to her, but seeing and touching her body does the opposite. And before anyone accuses me of double standards, I’m a healthy weight. The real kicker is she was very sexually active in her 20’s while I was not, and while I’d like to make up for what I missed out on, I find myself having to initiate most of the time now. It’s like she had her fun in her youth and is over it and settled down now and would rather play on her phone than initiate sex. I’m at a loss of how to turn things around when she is not inclined to start anything, I’m not turned on physically, and I don’t want to be the jerk that demands she lose a ton of weight but it’s probably what needs to happen for her own health. submitted by /u/lostintime795 [link] [comments]
I [45M] have been married to my wife [44F] for 15 years now and I’ve always been attracted to slightly “bigger” curvy women and my wife was one of those types. But her weight has yoyo’d over the years and now she’s plus 70lbs and has a rather large obese belly that flops over her waistline and to be brutally honest it’s become a huge turn off. I try to be supportive and I never criticize her weight, and I’m still very much emotionally attracted to her, but seeing and touching her body does the opposite. And before anyone accuses me of double standards, I’m a healthy weight. The real kicker is she was very sexually active in her 20’s while I was not, and while I’d like to make up for what I missed out on, I find myself having to initiate most of the time now. It’s like she had her fun in her youth and is over it and settled down now and would rather play on her phone than initiate sex. I’m at a loss of how to turn things around when she is not inclined to start anything, I’m not turned on physically, and I don’t want to be the jerk that demands she lose a ton of weight but it’s probably what needs to happen for her own health.
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