Today my partner (M30) tried to initiate sex with me (F27). I told him I need to use the restroom first. I hate having to pee/poo during sex. I can’t enjoy the moment. He told me no, you’re going to have to wait if you decide to poop because it apparently “kills the spontaneity and mood” for me to perform normal bodily functions. As I’m using the restroom, I see him already getting dressed. I told him please wait, I still want to have sex and he said no. Either we have sex now or we don’t. Am I wrong to be so angry and annoyed at the situation? I literally took 2 minutes. I feel so hurt and mad. I don’t understand why he can’t wait two minutes.
Update:
I texted: I feel really down so that’s why I am texting you. I understand that you enjoy spontaneous, uninterrupted intimacy, and I want that too. Sometimes I need to take a moment for basic things like using the restroom. I felt really hurt when you changed your mind because I took just a couple of minutes maybe even less since you hadn’t even finished getting dressed. It made me feel uncared for. I want to be able to take care of my needs without it affecting our connection
He responded: I understand babe and I’m sorry for making you feel that way. The feeling just left me when you said you gotta poop too. I understand you have needs and you should be able to take care of those if you need to but I would have appreciated you communicating that you needed to pee and poop. When you start adding stuff, it just doesn’t feel good to me.
Me: I don’t understand. I thought I told you that I needed to pee? As soon as I got on the toilet I realized that I had to poop as well. I thought I communicated that to you as well and then you gave me the ultimatum that I either just pee and have sex or poop and not have sex. I don’t understand what you mean by not feeling good about adding stuff? Can you tell me more about what you meant by that?
Him: You communicated to me that you also needed to poop when you were already peeing. You can poop or pee before having sex for sure but if it means I have to wait even longer than I expected I think it’s fair for me to change my mind about having sex as well. I think it’s fair.
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r/sex Today my partner (M30) tried to initiate sex with me (F27). I told him I need to use the restroom first. I hate having to pee/poo during sex. I can’t enjoy the moment. He told me no, you’re going to have to wait if you decide to poop because it apparently “kills the spontaneity and mood” for me to perform normal bodily functions. As I’m using the restroom, I see him already getting dressed. I told him please wait, I still want to have sex and he said no. Either we have sex now or we don’t. Am I wrong to be so angry and annoyed at the situation? I literally took 2 minutes. I feel so hurt and mad. I don’t understand why he can’t wait two minutes. Update: I texted: I feel really down so that’s why I am texting you. I understand that you enjoy spontaneous, uninterrupted intimacy, and I want that too. Sometimes I need to take a moment for basic things like using the restroom. I felt really hurt when you changed your mind because I took just a couple of minutes maybe even less since you hadn’t even finished getting dressed. It made me feel uncared for. I want to be able to take care of my needs without it affecting our connection He responded: I understand babe and I’m sorry for making you feel that way. The feeling just left me when you said you gotta poop too. I understand you have needs and you should be able to take care of those if you need to but I would have appreciated you communicating that you needed to pee and poop. When you start adding stuff, it just doesn’t feel good to me. Me: I don’t understand. I thought I told you that I needed to pee? As soon as I got on the toilet I realized that I had to poop as well. I thought I communicated that to you as well and then you gave me the ultimatum that I either just pee and have sex or poop and not have sex. I don’t understand what you mean by not feeling good about adding stuff? Can you tell me more about what you meant by that? Him: You communicated to me that you also needed to poop when you were already peeing. You can poop or pee before having sex for sure but if it means I have to wait even longer than I expected I think it’s fair for me to change my mind about having sex as well. I think it’s fair. submitted by /u/RumiOhara [link] [comments]
Today my partner (M30) tried to initiate sex with me (F27). I told him I need to use the restroom first. I hate having to pee/poo during sex. I can’t enjoy the moment. He told me no, you’re going to have to wait if you decide to poop because it apparently “kills the spontaneity and mood” for me to perform normal bodily functions. As I’m using the restroom, I see him already getting dressed. I told him please wait, I still want to have sex and he said no. Either we have sex now or we don’t. Am I wrong to be so angry and annoyed at the situation? I literally took 2 minutes. I feel so hurt and mad. I don’t understand why he can’t wait two minutes.
Update:
I texted: I feel really down so that’s why I am texting you. I understand that you enjoy spontaneous, uninterrupted intimacy, and I want that too. Sometimes I need to take a moment for basic things like using the restroom. I felt really hurt when you changed your mind because I took just a couple of minutes maybe even less since you hadn’t even finished getting dressed. It made me feel uncared for. I want to be able to take care of my needs without it affecting our connection
He responded: I understand babe and I’m sorry for making you feel that way. The feeling just left me when you said you gotta poop too. I understand you have needs and you should be able to take care of those if you need to but I would have appreciated you communicating that you needed to pee and poop. When you start adding stuff, it just doesn’t feel good to me.
Me: I don’t understand. I thought I told you that I needed to pee? As soon as I got on the toilet I realized that I had to poop as well. I thought I communicated that to you as well and then you gave me the ultimatum that I either just pee and have sex or poop and not have sex. I don’t understand what you mean by not feeling good about adding stuff? Can you tell me more about what you meant by that?
Him: You communicated to me that you also needed to poop when you were already peeing. You can poop or pee before having sex for sure but if it means I have to wait even longer than I expected I think it’s fair for me to change my mind about having sex as well. I think it’s fair.
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