I’m currently in a moral dilemma that I never thought I’d find myself in. I’m not sure if this is better suited to relationship advice.
I’m currently having sex with a man that I work with who is significantly older than me (20+ years). I am over 22 years old and the sex is absolutely, wholeheartedly, 110% safe and consensual between the both of us. Also for context this is a weekend job that I have alongside my full time job so I’m not fully dependent on this job.
The issue is that while I enjoy our relationship, his company, and the intimacy, I feel extremely guilty about sleeping with him. I live with my parents who are more than happy for me to go out at night, even if they know it’s with him, but the outside view is that it’s more of a friendly/mentorship relationship. I try to be as close to the truth as possible but I just feel terrible sometimes for making up excuses to see him (work related or family related etc). Obviously they know we are close friends but not that close.
On one hand I think “fuck it, this relationship is entirely consensual and what goes on in my sex life is no one else’s business” but on the other hand I feel immense amounts of guilt for lying about things. I’ve thought about breaking it off but I really do love him and respect him.
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r/sex I’m currently in a moral dilemma that I never thought I’d find myself in. I’m not sure if this is better suited to relationship advice. I’m currently having sex with a man that I work with who is significantly older than me (20+ years). I am over 22 years old and the sex is absolutely, wholeheartedly, 110% safe and consensual between the both of us. Also for context this is a weekend job that I have alongside my full time job so I’m not fully dependent on this job. The issue is that while I enjoy our relationship, his company, and the intimacy, I feel extremely guilty about sleeping with him. I live with my parents who are more than happy for me to go out at night, even if they know it’s with him, but the outside view is that it’s more of a friendly/mentorship relationship. I try to be as close to the truth as possible but I just feel terrible sometimes for making up excuses to see him (work related or family related etc). Obviously they know we are close friends but not that close. On one hand I think “fuck it, this relationship is entirely consensual and what goes on in my sex life is no one else’s business” but on the other hand I feel immense amounts of guilt for lying about things. I’ve thought about breaking it off but I really do love him and respect him. submitted by /u/cherrytortoni [link] [comments]
I’m currently in a moral dilemma that I never thought I’d find myself in. I’m not sure if this is better suited to relationship advice.
I’m currently having sex with a man that I work with who is significantly older than me (20+ years). I am over 22 years old and the sex is absolutely, wholeheartedly, 110% safe and consensual between the both of us. Also for context this is a weekend job that I have alongside my full time job so I’m not fully dependent on this job.
The issue is that while I enjoy our relationship, his company, and the intimacy, I feel extremely guilty about sleeping with him. I live with my parents who are more than happy for me to go out at night, even if they know it’s with him, but the outside view is that it’s more of a friendly/mentorship relationship. I try to be as close to the truth as possible but I just feel terrible sometimes for making up excuses to see him (work related or family related etc). Obviously they know we are close friends but not that close.
On one hand I think “fuck it, this relationship is entirely consensual and what goes on in my sex life is no one else’s business” but on the other hand I feel immense amounts of guilt for lying about things. I’ve thought about breaking it off but I really do love him and respect him.
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