Have a serious problem feeling like my gf’s ex-partners are incredibly superior to me /u/CbrStar0918 Sex

We are now broken up, but have been in limbo for months. I have this enormous problem I cannot get past, and I would have to get over it if I ever wanted to consider getting back with her but idk where to start.

This girl, she got out of a decently shitty 3 year relationship about a year before we met. She had become quite the woman over this time, and after breaking up she was pretty much just looking for sex and “casual dating” as she described. I know this because of an old playlist title I saw on her phone. For the record, Im not dissing on her because I know women have their needs too, as much as I hate to picture it.

I unfortunately gained a lot of knowledge on the guys that she had been with, mostly all full beards, 6’ plus, big guys. I also know how sexually active she is, how high her libido is, how much she likes intercourse, and honestly how much she likes being dominated over and basically just getting fucked.

Im not horrible at sex, I know a couple moves and have had my fair share of good reviews, but I have a serious problem with cumming too quick. At my worst it was like immediately as penetration happened, average is 1-2 minutes of full speed, although i had a couple good times when we were drunk. Ive been working on it for months but haven’t came to a full solution yet. I am also like 5’8”, a small guy, and have been insecure about my body and looks for my whole life.

One of the reasons we broke up is I cant shake the feeling I will never be good enough for her. I am 100% not her type as you could EASILY pick me out of a lineup, and I love pleasing her but I literally cant. All I can picture is her in pure ecstasy with a face of absolute pleasure with this big guy giving it to her for all its worth, while I am nowhere near that and physically can’t give her what I know she craves. We have made adjustments, but at times she has shown her displeasure and made jokes about it on accident which made me feel pretty worthless as a human. I have millions of things I would love to do to her but lack the capability of doing so. This makes me shy away from sex sometimes and has put a intensely massive told on my mind.

Is there any advice? I do love this women a lot but Im afraid I will either A. never be able to transform myself to a mediocre standard at best B. never be able to forget these awful, psychologically damaging images that flood my mind and ultimately led to our downfall

We are now broken up, but have been in limbo for months. I have this enormous problem I cannot get past, and I would have to get over it if I ever wanted to consider getting back with her but idk where to start.

This girl, she got out of a decently shitty 3 year relationship about a year before we met. She had become quite the woman over this time, and after breaking up she was pretty much just looking for sex and “casual dating” as she described. I know this because of an old playlist title I saw on her phone. For the record, Im not dissing on her because I know women have their needs too, as much as I hate to picture it.

I unfortunately gained a lot of knowledge on the guys that she had been with, mostly all full beards, 6’ plus, big guys. I also know how sexually active she is, how high her libido is, how much she likes intercourse, and honestly how much she likes being dominated over and basically just getting fucked.

Im not horrible at sex, I know a couple moves and have had my fair share of good reviews, but I have a serious problem with cumming too quick. At my worst it was like immediately as penetration happened, average is 1-2 minutes of full speed, although i had a couple good times when we were drunk. Ive been working on it for months but haven’t came to a full solution yet. I am also like 5’8”, a small guy, and have been insecure about my body and looks for my whole life.

One of the reasons we broke up is I cant shake the feeling I will never be good enough for her. I am 100% not her type as you could EASILY pick me out of a lineup, and I love pleasing her but I literally cant. All I can picture is her in pure ecstasy with a face of absolute pleasure with this big guy giving it to her for all its worth, while I am nowhere near that and physically can’t give her what I know she craves. We have made adjustments, but at times she has shown her displeasure and made jokes about it on accident which made me feel pretty worthless as a human. I have millions of things I would love to do to her but lack the capability of doing so. This makes me shy away from sex sometimes and has put a intensely massive told on my mind.

Is there any advice? I do love this women a lot but Im afraid I will either A. never be able to transform myself to a mediocre standard at best B. never be able to forget these awful, psychologically damaging images that flood my mind and ultimately led to our downfall