31 year old virgin. Is it too late for me to try dating? /u/Wonderful_Bell_8114 Sex

I’m 31M who is a virgin. Since my adolescence I’ve had self-confidence issues about my physical attractiveness given that I was bullied by girls at high school. Thus, I became very shy when interacting with girls at college, thinking that I was undesirable for them, as it was at high school. I was only comfortable interacting with them for academic purposes, but not for getting to know them and eventually escalate the interaction to a romantic setting.

Throughout the last years, I’ve realized that my physical appearance is not the main issue but my low self-confidence that made me avoidant on interacting with women. I’ve realized that there could have been several women which have been interested in me or expecting me to ask them out. However, because of not feeling attractive or sufficient I abstained from deepening the interaction with them. There have been a few women who liked me, but I didn’t liked them.

Following several years on therapy, I’ve slightly been more proactive on meeting women and asking them on dates, but I haven’t been able to keep them interested. Probably because I didn’t develop the skill of emotionally connecting with women due to the lack of previous interactions and because of not feeling sufficient, considering that other men who are my age and younger are more experienced in dating and I’m not. Hence, I don’t feel I have a chance to be more interesting and seductive than them and this makes me feel so behind.

So, I’m worried that it may not be worth trying to catch up on my ability to emotionally connect with women and that it’s too late for me to try to date and eventually find a partner, considering that I’m so behind regarding the dating skills I should have in my age.

Sorry for my grammar, English is not my native language.

I’m 31M who is a virgin. Since my adolescence I’ve had self-confidence issues about my physical attractiveness given that I was bullied by girls at high school. Thus, I became very shy when interacting with girls at college, thinking that I was undesirable for them, as it was at high school. I was only comfortable interacting with them for academic purposes, but not for getting to know them and eventually escalate the interaction to a romantic setting.

Throughout the last years, I’ve realized that my physical appearance is not the main issue but my low self-confidence that made me avoidant on interacting with women. I’ve realized that there could have been several women which have been interested in me or expecting me to ask them out. However, because of not feeling attractive or sufficient I abstained from deepening the interaction with them. There have been a few women who liked me, but I didn’t liked them.

Following several years on therapy, I’ve slightly been more proactive on meeting women and asking them on dates, but I haven’t been able to keep them interested. Probably because I didn’t develop the skill of emotionally connecting with women due to the lack of previous interactions and because of not feeling sufficient, considering that other men who are my age and younger are more experienced in dating and I’m not. Hence, I don’t feel I have a chance to be more interesting and seductive than them and this makes me feel so behind.

So, I’m worried that it may not be worth trying to catch up on my ability to emotionally connect with women and that it’s too late for me to try to date and eventually find a partner, considering that I’m so behind regarding the dating skills I should have in my age.

Sorry for my grammar, English is not my native language.