i feel broken in our relationship /u/Glittering_Scholar62 Sex

My wife and I have been together for 15 years. We’ve known each other since we were young, and before our relationship, both of us had minimal experience. We live a normal, orderly life and have two children together. At the beginning of our relationship, my wife had trouble relaxing during sex, but that improved over the years. Today, she likely enjoys sex and has an orgasms almost everytime.

As for me, I’m a passionate person who loves sex, touches, oral sex, and outdoor intimacy. Looking back, I think my excessive desire for sex may have been a bother to my wife. Perhaps I was even annoying sometimes, though I never pressured her into anything. At most, I’d make a subtle comment during a walk in the forest, like “Should we have sex?” Her response would often be a simple “No.” I’ve unfortunately heard the word “no” probably a thousand times.

For the past few years, I’ve realized that my wife and I have completely different desires and needs. I might be able to cope with being the more sexually active one. However, I’ve noticed a very unpleasant trend recently: my wife doesn’t touch me at all. She almost never gives me a spontaneous kiss. It’s a truly awful feeling—I don’t know how to describe it, but it’s like I’m a ghost. On the other hand, I absolutely need to hug, cuddle, kiss, and touch someone to feel alive.

When it comes to communication, I’ve expressed my worries, feelings, and needs several times. I don’t have a problem discussing our relationship, and I’d actually like to do it more. But my wife often just listens and doesn’t say much in response. It’s clear that it troubles her—she might even start crying—but she says almost nothing, maybe just a couple of words. It’s heartbreaking. Unfortunately, I’m now stuck in a cycle. Sometimes it’s okay, but other times, I start to realize that I might be trapped with someone I don’t have much in common with.

Lately, I’ve become very withdrawn and uncommunicative with my wife. I wait for her to ask me, “What’s wrong?” but she doesn’t. To be fair, my wife has raised two kids and has been a stay-at-home mom for several years. In that time, she’s sort of become a robot who only does housework. We’ve talked about how that could be resolved, like hiring a cleaner, but she says it’s not necessary.

Please, I need advice on how to break out of this cycle. I’ve tried to communicate, but it hasn’t brought about significant progress—in fact, it feels like things are getting worse. Is there something wrong with me? Is it just that people always want more and more? I feel broken… Has anyone experienced something similar? Thanks in advance for your advice.

My wife and I have been together for 15 years. We’ve known each other since we were young, and before our relationship, both of us had minimal experience. We live a normal, orderly life and have two children together. At the beginning of our relationship, my wife had trouble relaxing during sex, but that improved over the years. Today, she likely enjoys sex and has an orgasms almost everytime.

As for me, I’m a passionate person who loves sex, touches, oral sex, and outdoor intimacy. Looking back, I think my excessive desire for sex may have been a bother to my wife. Perhaps I was even annoying sometimes, though I never pressured her into anything. At most, I’d make a subtle comment during a walk in the forest, like “Should we have sex?” Her response would often be a simple “No.” I’ve unfortunately heard the word “no” probably a thousand times.

For the past few years, I’ve realized that my wife and I have completely different desires and needs. I might be able to cope with being the more sexually active one. However, I’ve noticed a very unpleasant trend recently: my wife doesn’t touch me at all. She almost never gives me a spontaneous kiss. It’s a truly awful feeling—I don’t know how to describe it, but it’s like I’m a ghost. On the other hand, I absolutely need to hug, cuddle, kiss, and touch someone to feel alive.

When it comes to communication, I’ve expressed my worries, feelings, and needs several times. I don’t have a problem discussing our relationship, and I’d actually like to do it more. But my wife often just listens and doesn’t say much in response. It’s clear that it troubles her—she might even start crying—but she says almost nothing, maybe just a couple of words. It’s heartbreaking. Unfortunately, I’m now stuck in a cycle. Sometimes it’s okay, but other times, I start to realize that I might be trapped with someone I don’t have much in common with.

Lately, I’ve become very withdrawn and uncommunicative with my wife. I wait for her to ask me, “What’s wrong?” but she doesn’t. To be fair, my wife has raised two kids and has been a stay-at-home mom for several years. In that time, she’s sort of become a robot who only does housework. We’ve talked about how that could be resolved, like hiring a cleaner, but she says it’s not necessary.

Please, I need advice on how to break out of this cycle. I’ve tried to communicate, but it hasn’t brought about significant progress—in fact, it feels like things are getting worse. Is there something wrong with me? Is it just that people always want more and more? I feel broken… Has anyone experienced something similar? Thanks in advance for your advice.