I (32F) am scared of my husband low sex drive. How can I make sure to be happily married without sex /u/Open_Lavishness2118 Sex

I’m 32, married for four years to a loving and caring husband. However, our sexual relationship has been a concern for me. Since marriage, I’ve always been the one to initiate intimacy, and we’ve had sex only 15-20 times. Even after the birth of our child six months ago, things haven’t changed.

I’m struggling to understand why my husband shows no sexual interest in me. He’s loyal, and I’m certain he’s not cheating. Initially, he attributed his low sex drive to back pain, but that seems unlikely given our overall lack of intimacy.

We’ve had a limited sex life, with counted instances over the past four years. I’ve even joked about not finishing a pack of protection in a year. While he’s caring in other ways, his disinterest in sex has left me feeling hopeless.

I’ve tried to understand his preferences, wondering if he’s not attracted to my physical appearance. However, it seems he’s not interested in any sexual activity. In the early days of our marriage, I’d share stories of friends’ active sex lives, and he’d dismiss it, saying they’d eventually get bored.

Our emotional intimacy is also lacking, as he rarely shows affection like kissing, hugging, or holding hands in public. Only when I complain does he show minimal affection. I’m finding it challenging to cope with this situation, and I fear for the future of our relationship.

TL;DR: I’m nervous about my current situation . I’ had a great sex life before marriage with my ex I am loyal for my husband and I want to make sure that I will stay loyal . I’d like advice how to address this current situation how to fix it please🙏🏻

I’m 32, married for four years to a loving and caring husband. However, our sexual relationship has been a concern for me. Since marriage, I’ve always been the one to initiate intimacy, and we’ve had sex only 15-20 times. Even after the birth of our child six months ago, things haven’t changed.

I’m struggling to understand why my husband shows no sexual interest in me. He’s loyal, and I’m certain he’s not cheating. Initially, he attributed his low sex drive to back pain, but that seems unlikely given our overall lack of intimacy.

We’ve had a limited sex life, with counted instances over the past four years. I’ve even joked about not finishing a pack of protection in a year. While he’s caring in other ways, his disinterest in sex has left me feeling hopeless.

I’ve tried to understand his preferences, wondering if he’s not attracted to my physical appearance. However, it seems he’s not interested in any sexual activity. In the early days of our marriage, I’d share stories of friends’ active sex lives, and he’d dismiss it, saying they’d eventually get bored.

Our emotional intimacy is also lacking, as he rarely shows affection like kissing, hugging, or holding hands in public. Only when I complain does he show minimal affection. I’m finding it challenging to cope with this situation, and I fear for the future of our relationship.

TL;DR: I’m nervous about my current situation . I’ had a great sex life before marriage with my ex I am loyal for my husband and I want to make sure that I will stay loyal . I’d like advice how to address this current situation how to fix it please🙏🏻