(F 41) I want a non monogamous open relationship. My husband (47) doesn’t want anything to do with it – afraid of losing me and afraid of not doing Gods will. We’ve been married 20 years. We’ve had some slightly traumatic experiences in our sexual relationship, especially in the first 12 years of marriage – such as him not asking for consent, controlling behavior, and I cheated on him early on. At this point , I’m just not into him. I’m not sexually attracted to him and I have sex with him out of obligation. For me it’s not fun or romantic or enjoyable or satisfying. My body tenses up when he wants sex from me. Dead fish sex. If I have decent sex with him (every once in a while) its because I’m imagining having sex with someone else or someone flirted with me and I get horny and I come home and fuck him. I’ve told him how I feel- about my lack of attraction, our lack of connection, and my desires for polyamory- he’s open to hearing my feelings but nothing else. I feel like we are at a point where there’s not a lot of compromise from either one of us. Neither one of us know what to do anymore. I’m sure he’s sick of hearing shit from me. He relates us to the Bible story of Hosea and Hagar. The only thing I can figure to do is what I have done- obligatory, unsatisfactory, non connected, dry (as fuck) pussy, no attraction sex- and he gets his rocks off and I’m left feeling depleted,sad or angry. Divorce is not the answer. The same issues always arise- we are just on the merri go round if neither one of us knowing how to fix anything.
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r/sex (F 41) I want a non monogamous open relationship. My husband (47) doesn’t want anything to do with it – afraid of losing me and afraid of not doing Gods will. We’ve been married 20 years. We’ve had some slightly traumatic experiences in our sexual relationship, especially in the first 12 years of marriage – such as him not asking for consent, controlling behavior, and I cheated on him early on. At this point , I’m just not into him. I’m not sexually attracted to him and I have sex with him out of obligation. For me it’s not fun or romantic or enjoyable or satisfying. My body tenses up when he wants sex from me. Dead fish sex. If I have decent sex with him (every once in a while) its because I’m imagining having sex with someone else or someone flirted with me and I get horny and I come home and fuck him. I’ve told him how I feel- about my lack of attraction, our lack of connection, and my desires for polyamory- he’s open to hearing my feelings but nothing else. I feel like we are at a point where there’s not a lot of compromise from either one of us. Neither one of us know what to do anymore. I’m sure he’s sick of hearing shit from me. He relates us to the Bible story of Hosea and Hagar. The only thing I can figure to do is what I have done- obligatory, unsatisfactory, non connected, dry (as fuck) pussy, no attraction sex- and he gets his rocks off and I’m left feeling depleted,sad or angry. Divorce is not the answer. The same issues always arise- we are just on the merri go round if neither one of us knowing how to fix anything. submitted by /u/Honest_Dance5039 [link] [comments]
(F 41) I want a non monogamous open relationship. My husband (47) doesn’t want anything to do with it – afraid of losing me and afraid of not doing Gods will. We’ve been married 20 years. We’ve had some slightly traumatic experiences in our sexual relationship, especially in the first 12 years of marriage – such as him not asking for consent, controlling behavior, and I cheated on him early on. At this point , I’m just not into him. I’m not sexually attracted to him and I have sex with him out of obligation. For me it’s not fun or romantic or enjoyable or satisfying. My body tenses up when he wants sex from me. Dead fish sex. If I have decent sex with him (every once in a while) its because I’m imagining having sex with someone else or someone flirted with me and I get horny and I come home and fuck him. I’ve told him how I feel- about my lack of attraction, our lack of connection, and my desires for polyamory- he’s open to hearing my feelings but nothing else. I feel like we are at a point where there’s not a lot of compromise from either one of us. Neither one of us know what to do anymore. I’m sure he’s sick of hearing shit from me. He relates us to the Bible story of Hosea and Hagar. The only thing I can figure to do is what I have done- obligatory, unsatisfactory, non connected, dry (as fuck) pussy, no attraction sex- and he gets his rocks off and I’m left feeling depleted,sad or angry. Divorce is not the answer. The same issues always arise- we are just on the merri go round if neither one of us knowing how to fix anything.
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