My partner enjoys wearing lingerie and I’m struggling with it /u/Ok-Assistant-4040 Sex

My (F hetero) partner (M hetero) likes wearing women’s lingerie. Let me just start by saying I love my partner dearly, I’m very grateful they are open with me, and we have been dabbling in this type of thing together for years. That said, lately I’ve been struggling with the way I feel about it after engaging in this and it’s making me feel guilty.

He grew up in a very conservative family where this type of thing would literally get him disowned. I have assured him that I don’t love him less for it or that it makes me question his sexuality in an effort to create a safe space for him to explore this. I don’t want to see him regress by saying this, but I sometimes feel a little turned off after indulging his kink. It clashes a bit with what I enjoy, but I struggle with feeling like I’m being judgmental or close minded. We are not sexually incompatible, this is just one hurdle that isn’t a deal breaker. I am trying to figure out how I can come up with a way to discuss this with him without slamming the door shut on his kinks or making him feel like I’m judging him. I’m also trying to figure out how I can explore this on my end so it doesn’t feel so one sided. I think we can make this work in a way we both enjoy, but I don’t have anyone to talk to about it or even really an understanding of why he enjoys this.

For anyone who has this kink, how would you feel most supported in a conversation about your partner struggling with it, in addition to just talking about it in general? What kinds of things have worked for you and your partner in terms of exploring it together? Finally, are there any things you would recommend I spend some time researching to help me gain a little more insight before bringing this up?

Edit. Bruh. Stop messaging me weird shit or fishing for super specific details about my sex life by pretending to be curious. There are subs for that exact purpose with willing participants.

My (F hetero) partner (M hetero) likes wearing women’s lingerie. Let me just start by saying I love my partner dearly, I’m very grateful they are open with me, and we have been dabbling in this type of thing together for years. That said, lately I’ve been struggling with the way I feel about it after engaging in this and it’s making me feel guilty.

He grew up in a very conservative family where this type of thing would literally get him disowned. I have assured him that I don’t love him less for it or that it makes me question his sexuality in an effort to create a safe space for him to explore this. I don’t want to see him regress by saying this, but I sometimes feel a little turned off after indulging his kink. It clashes a bit with what I enjoy, but I struggle with feeling like I’m being judgmental or close minded. We are not sexually incompatible, this is just one hurdle that isn’t a deal breaker. I am trying to figure out how I can come up with a way to discuss this with him without slamming the door shut on his kinks or making him feel like I’m judging him. I’m also trying to figure out how I can explore this on my end so it doesn’t feel so one sided. I think we can make this work in a way we both enjoy, but I don’t have anyone to talk to about it or even really an understanding of why he enjoys this.

For anyone who has this kink, how would you feel most supported in a conversation about your partner struggling with it, in addition to just talking about it in general? What kinds of things have worked for you and your partner in terms of exploring it together? Finally, are there any things you would recommend I spend some time researching to help me gain a little more insight before bringing this up?

Edit. Bruh. Stop messaging me weird shit or fishing for super specific details about my sex life by pretending to be curious. There are subs for that exact purpose with willing participants.