I’ve lost the desire for sex and Im struggling to find a reason why /u/IrisSky29 Sex

I 25F and my fiancé 29M have been together 3yrs and have always had a healthy communication style when it comes to sex and our wants. We have different libidos where his is high and mine is low ( I know shocker) but that’s never been an issue. He’s incredibly understanding and satisfies himself when needed which is a lot of times. I don’t masturbate a lot mainly because I don’t have a want for it.

Just to tackle a potential question I got off of birth control (nexplanon) a year ago and had it off and on since like 2018-2019.

We used to have sex a lot during the 1st year which I know is common since it’s the “honeymoon phase” but the drop off for me has been super jarring. On his end everything stayed the same but the lust for him is gone for me except on rare occasions. I usually want sex/physical intimacy when I drink and that’s not very often. I’m very attracted to him so that’s not even a question so I don’t understand the mental and physical barrier.

I have to force myself to give in and then while having sex I’m mentally like “oh wow this is great idk why I didn’t want this!” I’m happy with our sex as well and don’t feel like something is missing or needs to be added to it.

I want to have that want for sex and I’m just exhausted and frustrated with not having that desire. I personally feel like I’m failing and that my body is broken for not wanting it. I’m at a lose for what to do and will take any insight or suggestions.

I 25F and my fiancé 29M have been together 3yrs and have always had a healthy communication style when it comes to sex and our wants. We have different libidos where his is high and mine is low ( I know shocker) but that’s never been an issue. He’s incredibly understanding and satisfies himself when needed which is a lot of times. I don’t masturbate a lot mainly because I don’t have a want for it.

Just to tackle a potential question I got off of birth control (nexplanon) a year ago and had it off and on since like 2018-2019.

We used to have sex a lot during the 1st year which I know is common since it’s the “honeymoon phase” but the drop off for me has been super jarring. On his end everything stayed the same but the lust for him is gone for me except on rare occasions. I usually want sex/physical intimacy when I drink and that’s not very often. I’m very attracted to him so that’s not even a question so I don’t understand the mental and physical barrier.

I have to force myself to give in and then while having sex I’m mentally like “oh wow this is great idk why I didn’t want this!” I’m happy with our sex as well and don’t feel like something is missing or needs to be added to it.

I want to have that want for sex and I’m just exhausted and frustrated with not having that desire. I personally feel like I’m failing and that my body is broken for not wanting it. I’m at a lose for what to do and will take any insight or suggestions.