My partner (m23) and I (f23) have been dating for almost 2 years. Within the first year of us dating, he cheated on me twice (those were times I found out about). We’re not too sexually compatible, which is a big issue in our relationship. Before I found out about the second girl he cheated on me with, I used to love sex, I could have it multiple times a day, almost every day of the week whereas he could have it once a day, 1 – 3 days a week. We could go weeks without sex if I didn’t ask for or initiate it. I believe our sexual incompatibility played a part in him cheating on me.
In the last few months, for some reason, I have no desire to have sex. I don’t think it’s the cheating, it could be, but I doubt it. I don’t want to have sex at all, not with him or any other person. I don’t get wet, foreplay doesn’t arouse me and I don’t even masturbate anymore. I know my boyfriend wants to have sex, maybe not as much as I used too but he does want to have sex, and I just can’t bring myself to have sex with him. He also isn’t comfortable with having sex for the sake of having sex, or because he is horny. He would prefer we both want it. Because of this, I want my partner to sleep with someone else. I don’t know how to explain it but I believe it will make me feel better about not wanting to sleep with him. I also feel like he can find someone he’s more sexually compatible with. Weird thing is, I don’t want the relationship to end. I just don’t want to sleep with him.
Please advise. Why am I feeling this way? Is it weird? Thanks.
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r/sex My partner (m23) and I (f23) have been dating for almost 2 years. Within the first year of us dating, he cheated on me twice (those were times I found out about). We’re not too sexually compatible, which is a big issue in our relationship. Before I found out about the second girl he cheated on me with, I used to love sex, I could have it multiple times a day, almost every day of the week whereas he could have it once a day, 1 – 3 days a week. We could go weeks without sex if I didn’t ask for or initiate it. I believe our sexual incompatibility played a part in him cheating on me. In the last few months, for some reason, I have no desire to have sex. I don’t think it’s the cheating, it could be, but I doubt it. I don’t want to have sex at all, not with him or any other person. I don’t get wet, foreplay doesn’t arouse me and I don’t even masturbate anymore. I know my boyfriend wants to have sex, maybe not as much as I used too but he does want to have sex, and I just can’t bring myself to have sex with him. He also isn’t comfortable with having sex for the sake of having sex, or because he is horny. He would prefer we both want it. Because of this, I want my partner to sleep with someone else. I don’t know how to explain it but I believe it will make me feel better about not wanting to sleep with him. I also feel like he can find someone he’s more sexually compatible with. Weird thing is, I don’t want the relationship to end. I just don’t want to sleep with him. Please advise. Why am I feeling this way? Is it weird? Thanks. submitted by /u/Maleficent-Power-471 [link] [comments]
My partner (m23) and I (f23) have been dating for almost 2 years. Within the first year of us dating, he cheated on me twice (those were times I found out about). We’re not too sexually compatible, which is a big issue in our relationship. Before I found out about the second girl he cheated on me with, I used to love sex, I could have it multiple times a day, almost every day of the week whereas he could have it once a day, 1 – 3 days a week. We could go weeks without sex if I didn’t ask for or initiate it. I believe our sexual incompatibility played a part in him cheating on me.
In the last few months, for some reason, I have no desire to have sex. I don’t think it’s the cheating, it could be, but I doubt it. I don’t want to have sex at all, not with him or any other person. I don’t get wet, foreplay doesn’t arouse me and I don’t even masturbate anymore. I know my boyfriend wants to have sex, maybe not as much as I used too but he does want to have sex, and I just can’t bring myself to have sex with him. He also isn’t comfortable with having sex for the sake of having sex, or because he is horny. He would prefer we both want it. Because of this, I want my partner to sleep with someone else. I don’t know how to explain it but I believe it will make me feel better about not wanting to sleep with him. I also feel like he can find someone he’s more sexually compatible with. Weird thing is, I don’t want the relationship to end. I just don’t want to sleep with him.
Please advise. Why am I feeling this way? Is it weird? Thanks.
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