Hello,
(21F) I have a non-existent libido and I think it is linked to the rapes I suffered when I was a child, by a member of my family.
I had different boyfriends for a few months for the first time starting last year and each time I noticed the same problem: I don’t like making love at all. I hate it, I am disgusted and terrified each time. At first I couldn’t talk about it but in more recent relationships I managed to talk about it.
My exes didn’t seem to understand that when I didn’t want sex, it meant that I didn’t want sex. Because they still asked me if we could do it. So I explained the situation to my last ex and told him that I didn’t want sex but that he could use my body if he wanted to.
When I realized that he preferred to make love to me knowing that I would not get pleasure, I realized that my love life was going to be difficult.
I have a question for you. Could you have dated someone your whole life if you had to give up sex? I’m afraid that’s impossible and I don’t want to be alone all my life.
I wish I could feel pleasure and give it but I’ve tried and I can’t. Please don’t try to talk me into therapy or finding the right person, I know that the situation will never change.
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r/sex Hello, (21F) I have a non-existent libido and I think it is linked to the rapes I suffered when I was a child, by a member of my family. I had different boyfriends for a few months for the first time starting last year and each time I noticed the same problem: I don’t like making love at all. I hate it, I am disgusted and terrified each time. At first I couldn’t talk about it but in more recent relationships I managed to talk about it. My exes didn’t seem to understand that when I didn’t want sex, it meant that I didn’t want sex. Because they still asked me if we could do it. So I explained the situation to my last ex and told him that I didn’t want sex but that he could use my body if he wanted to. When I realized that he preferred to make love to me knowing that I would not get pleasure, I realized that my love life was going to be difficult. I have a question for you. Could you have dated someone your whole life if you had to give up sex? I’m afraid that’s impossible and I don’t want to be alone all my life. I wish I could feel pleasure and give it but I’ve tried and I can’t. Please don’t try to talk me into therapy or finding the right person, I know that the situation will never change. submitted by /u/Naimenns [link] [comments]
Hello,
(21F) I have a non-existent libido and I think it is linked to the rapes I suffered when I was a child, by a member of my family.
I had different boyfriends for a few months for the first time starting last year and each time I noticed the same problem: I don’t like making love at all. I hate it, I am disgusted and terrified each time. At first I couldn’t talk about it but in more recent relationships I managed to talk about it.
My exes didn’t seem to understand that when I didn’t want sex, it meant that I didn’t want sex. Because they still asked me if we could do it. So I explained the situation to my last ex and told him that I didn’t want sex but that he could use my body if he wanted to.
When I realized that he preferred to make love to me knowing that I would not get pleasure, I realized that my love life was going to be difficult.
I have a question for you. Could you have dated someone your whole life if you had to give up sex? I’m afraid that’s impossible and I don’t want to be alone all my life.
I wish I could feel pleasure and give it but I’ve tried and I can’t. Please don’t try to talk me into therapy or finding the right person, I know that the situation will never change.
submitted by /u/Naimenns
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