Boyfriends sex drive is much lower than mine /u/Any-Scheme5725 Sex

I’ve (27f) have been dating my boyfriend(28m) for four years now. We had the best sex life during our first year of dating but the sex slowly dwindled after the first year. It went from once a week to once every 2-3 weeks to once a month. I’ve vocalized to him that I’d love to connect with him more often in a sexual manner, it’s such an important moment for me to have with a partner so we can just enjoy each others body’s and just give each other pleasure and a lovely dopamine high together. We’re in couples counseling and I’ve mentioned these issues and he says he’s attracted to me but that he relates sex to feeling shame. So having sex with me sometimes feels shameful or he’s not able to enjoy it as much because he can’t cum inside since I’m not on birth control.

I’ve been trying to communicate how unhappy I am with our sex life for the past 3 years in the nicest way, so my last attempt was to bluntly tell him that I feel pretty sex deprived.

My hand is my best friend every night lol, there have been time where I crave sex sooo much that when I’m around other men or women I just feel myself getting horny and trying so hard to not do anything that would hurt my partner. But it’s such a strong urge that when I go home my underwear is visibly wet LOL did I think this would ever be a problem NO. I’ve always dated guys with a high sex drive and it was always the best sex and it happened often.

I’ve drunkenly blabbed about me not having the best sex life to a guy I have a small crush on. I don’t know why this affects me so much, I wish my sex drive was as low as my partners 🙁 it also feels terrible when this is usually considered an issue mostly men go through… it makes me feel like I’m not that attractive to my partner. It’s why I like going out with my best girl friend and getting hit on when we go out, just to feel like I still got it… again I haven’t done anything to cross boundaries but I have been having thoughts since nothing is changing with my sex life in my relationship. Feel free to knock some sense into me if I’m being selfish about this all😓

I’ve (27f) have been dating my boyfriend(28m) for four years now. We had the best sex life during our first year of dating but the sex slowly dwindled after the first year. It went from once a week to once every 2-3 weeks to once a month. I’ve vocalized to him that I’d love to connect with him more often in a sexual manner, it’s such an important moment for me to have with a partner so we can just enjoy each others body’s and just give each other pleasure and a lovely dopamine high together. We’re in couples counseling and I’ve mentioned these issues and he says he’s attracted to me but that he relates sex to feeling shame. So having sex with me sometimes feels shameful or he’s not able to enjoy it as much because he can’t cum inside since I’m not on birth control.

I’ve been trying to communicate how unhappy I am with our sex life for the past 3 years in the nicest way, so my last attempt was to bluntly tell him that I feel pretty sex deprived.

My hand is my best friend every night lol, there have been time where I crave sex sooo much that when I’m around other men or women I just feel myself getting horny and trying so hard to not do anything that would hurt my partner. But it’s such a strong urge that when I go home my underwear is visibly wet LOL did I think this would ever be a problem NO. I’ve always dated guys with a high sex drive and it was always the best sex and it happened often.

I’ve drunkenly blabbed about me not having the best sex life to a guy I have a small crush on. I don’t know why this affects me so much, I wish my sex drive was as low as my partners 🙁 it also feels terrible when this is usually considered an issue mostly men go through… it makes me feel like I’m not that attractive to my partner. It’s why I like going out with my best girl friend and getting hit on when we go out, just to feel like I still got it… again I haven’t done anything to cross boundaries but I have been having thoughts since nothing is changing with my sex life in my relationship. Feel free to knock some sense into me if I’m being selfish about this all😓