Me 22f and bf 25m met 6 months ago. Since then he hasn’t gone down on me at all and I’ve been overthinking it so much. I asked him to go down on me during sex once and he said not yet, after he said that he needs more time to feel comfortable doing it and he’s not obsessed with it like some men. Recently I ask why he’s hesitant, and he said he has health anxiety which I believe is true as a whole. He said he fears something unlikely might affect his health and that it’s nothing wrong with me and that he might do it eventually but until then we should enjoy each other as much as possible. I asked him if he’s done it in the past and he said yes. He didn’t expand on this and I feel confused. Oral makes me feel desired and the fact that he’s done it on other women but not on me hurts me especially after 6 months. We’ve exchanged std results ages ago and I have only had 2 previous sexual ‘partners’ only one of which was consensual.
When we have sex he doesn’t do much foreplay (touching me and a bit of fingering) and I’m almost never wet/turned on enough. He uses lube so we can just go straight to penetration. It feels good and he’s made me cum from piv once but I told him I need clitoral stimulation.
I am attracted to him and he’s a great guy in a lot of ways but I question whether he is attracted to me. I’ve given him oral twice and I would love to do it more bc I love to give in that way. I’ve given him a handjob once since we couldn’t have sex when I was on my period once. But I just want to feel that my pleasure is important and that I’m desired. I feel so torn.
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r/sex Me 22f and bf 25m met 6 months ago. Since then he hasn’t gone down on me at all and I’ve been overthinking it so much. I asked him to go down on me during sex once and he said not yet, after he said that he needs more time to feel comfortable doing it and he’s not obsessed with it like some men. Recently I ask why he’s hesitant, and he said he has health anxiety which I believe is true as a whole. He said he fears something unlikely might affect his health and that it’s nothing wrong with me and that he might do it eventually but until then we should enjoy each other as much as possible. I asked him if he’s done it in the past and he said yes. He didn’t expand on this and I feel confused. Oral makes me feel desired and the fact that he’s done it on other women but not on me hurts me especially after 6 months. We’ve exchanged std results ages ago and I have only had 2 previous sexual ‘partners’ only one of which was consensual. When we have sex he doesn’t do much foreplay (touching me and a bit of fingering) and I’m almost never wet/turned on enough. He uses lube so we can just go straight to penetration. It feels good and he’s made me cum from piv once but I told him I need clitoral stimulation. I am attracted to him and he’s a great guy in a lot of ways but I question whether he is attracted to me. I’ve given him oral twice and I would love to do it more bc I love to give in that way. I’ve given him a handjob once since we couldn’t have sex when I was on my period once. But I just want to feel that my pleasure is important and that I’m desired. I feel so torn. submitted by /u/Ok_Mixture_3480 [link] [comments]
Me 22f and bf 25m met 6 months ago. Since then he hasn’t gone down on me at all and I’ve been overthinking it so much. I asked him to go down on me during sex once and he said not yet, after he said that he needs more time to feel comfortable doing it and he’s not obsessed with it like some men. Recently I ask why he’s hesitant, and he said he has health anxiety which I believe is true as a whole. He said he fears something unlikely might affect his health and that it’s nothing wrong with me and that he might do it eventually but until then we should enjoy each other as much as possible. I asked him if he’s done it in the past and he said yes. He didn’t expand on this and I feel confused. Oral makes me feel desired and the fact that he’s done it on other women but not on me hurts me especially after 6 months. We’ve exchanged std results ages ago and I have only had 2 previous sexual ‘partners’ only one of which was consensual.
When we have sex he doesn’t do much foreplay (touching me and a bit of fingering) and I’m almost never wet/turned on enough. He uses lube so we can just go straight to penetration. It feels good and he’s made me cum from piv once but I told him I need clitoral stimulation.
I am attracted to him and he’s a great guy in a lot of ways but I question whether he is attracted to me. I’ve given him oral twice and I would love to do it more bc I love to give in that way. I’ve given him a handjob once since we couldn’t have sex when I was on my period once. But I just want to feel that my pleasure is important and that I’m desired. I feel so torn.
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