I (21F) have been suffering from some real intimacy issues in my four year relationship with my boyfriend (21M). He was way more experienced than me when we started dating, and my last boyfriend of over a year (who avoided anything sexual with me like the plague—evidently gay) made me repress my sexuality so much I had no idea what I wanted. So, for a long while, I never really bothered to find out. I enjoyed doing things with my current boyfriend, but until I owned up to him, all I really got out of our intimacy was the validation of his attention. I feel so much shame and anxiety about sexual stuff now that I struggle to masturbate and really try to figure out what I like. Sometimes I still worry (because of my upbringing) that it’s wrong/sinful to be sexual, which also complicates things.
My boyfriend is so invested in helping me and has been an angel about it (despite being initially devastated by the truth that I’d been faking orgasms), but I know my issues have caused him a lot of nervousness. I feel like I’ve made sex not fun for the both of us, and with shame suffocating me, I really struggle to see how I can make it better. I used to day dream horny stuff fairly often, but ever since my previous situation made me feel untouchable, I’ve had a horrible mental block. Any tips would be greatly appreciated
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r/sex I (21F) have been suffering from some real intimacy issues in my four year relationship with my boyfriend (21M). He was way more experienced than me when we started dating, and my last boyfriend of over a year (who avoided anything sexual with me like the plague—evidently gay) made me repress my sexuality so much I had no idea what I wanted. So, for a long while, I never really bothered to find out. I enjoyed doing things with my current boyfriend, but until I owned up to him, all I really got out of our intimacy was the validation of his attention. I feel so much shame and anxiety about sexual stuff now that I struggle to masturbate and really try to figure out what I like. Sometimes I still worry (because of my upbringing) that it’s wrong/sinful to be sexual, which also complicates things. My boyfriend is so invested in helping me and has been an angel about it (despite being initially devastated by the truth that I’d been faking orgasms), but I know my issues have caused him a lot of nervousness. I feel like I’ve made sex not fun for the both of us, and with shame suffocating me, I really struggle to see how I can make it better. I used to day dream horny stuff fairly often, but ever since my previous situation made me feel untouchable, I’ve had a horrible mental block. Any tips would be greatly appreciated submitted by /u/Night_Star124 [link] [comments]
I (21F) have been suffering from some real intimacy issues in my four year relationship with my boyfriend (21M). He was way more experienced than me when we started dating, and my last boyfriend of over a year (who avoided anything sexual with me like the plague—evidently gay) made me repress my sexuality so much I had no idea what I wanted. So, for a long while, I never really bothered to find out. I enjoyed doing things with my current boyfriend, but until I owned up to him, all I really got out of our intimacy was the validation of his attention. I feel so much shame and anxiety about sexual stuff now that I struggle to masturbate and really try to figure out what I like. Sometimes I still worry (because of my upbringing) that it’s wrong/sinful to be sexual, which also complicates things.
My boyfriend is so invested in helping me and has been an angel about it (despite being initially devastated by the truth that I’d been faking orgasms), but I know my issues have caused him a lot of nervousness. I feel like I’ve made sex not fun for the both of us, and with shame suffocating me, I really struggle to see how I can make it better. I used to day dream horny stuff fairly often, but ever since my previous situation made me feel untouchable, I’ve had a horrible mental block. Any tips would be greatly appreciated
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