I am a woman in my early 30s. As long as I can remember, I was convinced that I could not have an orgasm. I just decided I was broken and after having done some research and finding the term “primary anorgasmia” I just figured I had that and had to live with it.
For context, I am not sexually repressed in any way. I have always had an active sex life. I sleep with men, women, and anyone in between. I have owned many sex toys, I am vocal in bed and have always told my partners what I like and don’t like. I am active in the kink community. This isn’t a case of “just finding out what I like”. I know what I like, and i’ve tried every “tip” for women who can’t orgasm.
About 2 years ago I purchased a Hitachi and now I think i’m having orgasms but i’m not really sure. I just sit on it and rock back and forth to stimulate my clit. I get to the point where it feels amazing, push through that, and then something happens and i’m done. Sometimes I sort of gush liquid at the same time, I guess squirting but it doesn’t like fly across the room or anything. After my “orgasm” my vagina does contract and pulse and feel sensitive.
The issue here is that…. I feel like it’s supposed to be… better? I mean, it’s good. It’s fine. It feels like I needed to scratch an itch and did it. kinda. I can’t help but feel like the orgasms that other women describe having are nothing like what I have. I don’t feel it “all over” my body for one, it’s totally localized to my genitals. I don’t feel like my mind has been blown. I just kind of feel like “ok, well that was fine I guess”. I can’t help but feel disappointed that the thing I have wanted ever since I became sexually active is now happening but it’s not as good as I’m told it’s supposed to be. This makes me second guess if i’m even having them at all. But then why would I be squirting and why would my vagina be contracting if i’m not?
Also, I can’t “orgasm” from PIV sex at all. I can literally only do it with a wand toy. I still enjoy sex, and love having it with my boyfriend. But at the end of the day I still feel like i’m missing out on these amazing orgasms that other women are apparently having.
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r/sex I am a woman in my early 30s. As long as I can remember, I was convinced that I could not have an orgasm. I just decided I was broken and after having done some research and finding the term “primary anorgasmia” I just figured I had that and had to live with it. For context, I am not sexually repressed in any way. I have always had an active sex life. I sleep with men, women, and anyone in between. I have owned many sex toys, I am vocal in bed and have always told my partners what I like and don’t like. I am active in the kink community. This isn’t a case of “just finding out what I like”. I know what I like, and i’ve tried every “tip” for women who can’t orgasm. About 2 years ago I purchased a Hitachi and now I think i’m having orgasms but i’m not really sure. I just sit on it and rock back and forth to stimulate my clit. I get to the point where it feels amazing, push through that, and then something happens and i’m done. Sometimes I sort of gush liquid at the same time, I guess squirting but it doesn’t like fly across the room or anything. After my “orgasm” my vagina does contract and pulse and feel sensitive. The issue here is that…. I feel like it’s supposed to be… better? I mean, it’s good. It’s fine. It feels like I needed to scratch an itch and did it. kinda. I can’t help but feel like the orgasms that other women describe having are nothing like what I have. I don’t feel it “all over” my body for one, it’s totally localized to my genitals. I don’t feel like my mind has been blown. I just kind of feel like “ok, well that was fine I guess”. I can’t help but feel disappointed that the thing I have wanted ever since I became sexually active is now happening but it’s not as good as I’m told it’s supposed to be. This makes me second guess if i’m even having them at all. But then why would I be squirting and why would my vagina be contracting if i’m not? Also, I can’t “orgasm” from PIV sex at all. I can literally only do it with a wand toy. I still enjoy sex, and love having it with my boyfriend. But at the end of the day I still feel like i’m missing out on these amazing orgasms that other women are apparently having. submitted by /u/GreenEyesThighHighs [link] [comments]
I am a woman in my early 30s. As long as I can remember, I was convinced that I could not have an orgasm. I just decided I was broken and after having done some research and finding the term “primary anorgasmia” I just figured I had that and had to live with it.
For context, I am not sexually repressed in any way. I have always had an active sex life. I sleep with men, women, and anyone in between. I have owned many sex toys, I am vocal in bed and have always told my partners what I like and don’t like. I am active in the kink community. This isn’t a case of “just finding out what I like”. I know what I like, and i’ve tried every “tip” for women who can’t orgasm.
About 2 years ago I purchased a Hitachi and now I think i’m having orgasms but i’m not really sure. I just sit on it and rock back and forth to stimulate my clit. I get to the point where it feels amazing, push through that, and then something happens and i’m done. Sometimes I sort of gush liquid at the same time, I guess squirting but it doesn’t like fly across the room or anything. After my “orgasm” my vagina does contract and pulse and feel sensitive.
The issue here is that…. I feel like it’s supposed to be… better? I mean, it’s good. It’s fine. It feels like I needed to scratch an itch and did it. kinda. I can’t help but feel like the orgasms that other women describe having are nothing like what I have. I don’t feel it “all over” my body for one, it’s totally localized to my genitals. I don’t feel like my mind has been blown. I just kind of feel like “ok, well that was fine I guess”. I can’t help but feel disappointed that the thing I have wanted ever since I became sexually active is now happening but it’s not as good as I’m told it’s supposed to be. This makes me second guess if i’m even having them at all. But then why would I be squirting and why would my vagina be contracting if i’m not?
Also, I can’t “orgasm” from PIV sex at all. I can literally only do it with a wand toy. I still enjoy sex, and love having it with my boyfriend. But at the end of the day I still feel like i’m missing out on these amazing orgasms that other women are apparently having.
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