How do you solve the overthinking perfectionist burnout problem when it come to dressing better? /u/Mysterious-Airline43 /r/malefashionadvice

‘ve been getting into personal styling recently and have a client who will spend weeks obsessively researching fashion advice, buying and returning a bunch of clothes, trying to find the perfect brand, buying at batch, just to regret his choice, feeling defeated and now stuck with all the cloth. As an overthinking perfectionist myself, I empathize with the struggle but I just feel like nothing I say would help withoutturnout an intervention with him.

There is so much you learn about the brand and the garment that comes after owning it that you can never tell beforehand. Things like how it holds up after washing? does it stane or pill easily? And how practical is it given your lifestyle? Sure, you can look up the brand but it will never beat first hand expereince. The whole “I’m going to find and stick with the perfect brand to buy in bulk”attitude just doesn’t work. Not to mention your preferences, priorities, and needs change over time.

The idea of perfection is also troubling. I don’t think it is the right motivation to begin with but I don’t even know where to start with that. But even if we just look at the logistics of things it won’t work. The perfection that he is looking for doesn’t exist, not at his budget, experience level, and timeframe. The budget-friendly brand that is made with quality, stylish design, and fits him perfectly just seems like a ghost hunt to me.

I really am trying to help but I don’t know if there is anything I can do besides first sitting him down and doing an intervention-style talk to reorient his expectations and approach to dressing well. I have a feeling I’m overthinking this and I’m trying to find an answer and develop a course of some sort to help people like this because I see posts that talk about buyer’s remorse burnouts that seem to fits this profile exactly. Do you know anyone who is like this? I need to understand how they think better so I can help. Has anyone find any advice that has truck a cord with you to help you over come the perfectionist purnout trap?

‘ve been getting into personal styling recently and have a client who will spend weeks obsessively researching fashion advice, buying and returning a bunch of clothes, trying to find the perfect brand, buying at batch, just to regret his choice, feeling defeated and now stuck with all the cloth. As an overthinking perfectionist myself, I empathize with the struggle but I just feel like nothing I say would help withoutturnout an intervention with him.

There is so much you learn about the brand and the garment that comes after owning it that you can never tell beforehand. Things like how it holds up after washing? does it stane or pill easily? And how practical is it given your lifestyle? Sure, you can look up the brand but it will never beat first hand expereince. The whole “I’m going to find and stick with the perfect brand to buy in bulk”attitude just doesn’t work. Not to mention your preferences, priorities, and needs change over time.

The idea of perfection is also troubling. I don’t think it is the right motivation to begin with but I don’t even know where to start with that. But even if we just look at the logistics of things it won’t work. The perfection that he is looking for doesn’t exist, not at his budget, experience level, and timeframe. The budget-friendly brand that is made with quality, stylish design, and fits him perfectly just seems like a ghost hunt to me.

I really am trying to help but I don’t know if there is anything I can do besides first sitting him down and doing an intervention-style talk to reorient his expectations and approach to dressing well. I have a feeling I’m overthinking this and I’m trying to find an answer and develop a course of some sort to help people like this because I see posts that talk about buyer’s remorse burnouts that seem to fits this profile exactly. Do you know anyone who is like this? I need to understand how they think better so I can help. Has anyone find any advice that has truck a cord with you to help you over come the perfectionist purnout trap?