How do I fix my sex drive? /u/mochacoffeecake Sex

I (22f) used to have a very high sex drive. I used to have intense fantasies and adventurous things I wanted to do. I would want to do it always and anytime. It was something that was fun and exciting.

Now, my sex drive is near non existent. It’s been this way for a couple of months. Sex isn’t enjoyable anymore. I feel like I’m just going through the motions. Or just letting my partner take the lead and do whatever they want. I never initiate anymore, so it’s been them initiating. I’m kind of shy about it, so it’s not unusual for me to wait until the other initiates. But it’s hard for me to get in the mood, which makes it hard for me to get wet, which makes me anxious because I want it to be good for my partner, and then I get even less in the mood. And then I think about the porn they watch and other girls, and then I get even more less in the mood. I have to stop myself from getting too in my head and then stop myself from completely dissociating and then the other way again. It becomes a cycle.

I’ve tried doing different positions or new experimental things—things that the me six months would’ve been ecstatic to try. It doesn’t change the feeling like I’m having an out of body experience. I’ve started getting anxious when it comes to anticipating sex. I know I could reject initiations, which I have, but I’d never take it completely off the table.

I miss the person I used to be. Is there any advice to help find the cause of my sudden change in mood? Or fix my sex drive?

I (22f) used to have a very high sex drive. I used to have intense fantasies and adventurous things I wanted to do. I would want to do it always and anytime. It was something that was fun and exciting.

Now, my sex drive is near non existent. It’s been this way for a couple of months. Sex isn’t enjoyable anymore. I feel like I’m just going through the motions. Or just letting my partner take the lead and do whatever they want. I never initiate anymore, so it’s been them initiating. I’m kind of shy about it, so it’s not unusual for me to wait until the other initiates. But it’s hard for me to get in the mood, which makes it hard for me to get wet, which makes me anxious because I want it to be good for my partner, and then I get even less in the mood. And then I think about the porn they watch and other girls, and then I get even more less in the mood. I have to stop myself from getting too in my head and then stop myself from completely dissociating and then the other way again. It becomes a cycle.

I’ve tried doing different positions or new experimental things—things that the me six months would’ve been ecstatic to try. It doesn’t change the feeling like I’m having an out of body experience. I’ve started getting anxious when it comes to anticipating sex. I know I could reject initiations, which I have, but I’d never take it completely off the table.

I miss the person I used to be. Is there any advice to help find the cause of my sudden change in mood? Or fix my sex drive?