I don’t really know where to start. We’re both 20, it’s our first sexual relationship and we’ve been together a year. We have frequent sex, well, we usually makeout, touch eachother and give oral until we finish and we didn’t really have sex. We tried, but she’s too tight and it isn’t going in. We tried lube, different poses, drunk sex etc. but none of it seemed to work. This is besides the point since this isn’t my main problem, but I just wanted to give some background information.
Last week we had a sort of a fight about all this. It started with me telling her I don’t like being bit when we’re intimate. She bites really hard so I told her I don’t want her to do that anymore, to which she said a few things that shocked me. She told me that she does it so that I hold her down because domination turns her on, however we didn’t really get into that yet since we still didn’t even have proper sex. After this she told me she never gets wet enough for sex and blamed me for not setting the mood, even though she’s wet every time after I touch her a bit and she always finishes. It’s not like I don’t value foreplay or her needs. I always give her all the time and effort. She also said that she finds me attractive but my body and my penis don’t make her wet. Nor does making out. These two points completely shocked me. I thought she enjoyed all of this, but I don’t even understand why she does it if it doesn’t turn her on. I’m not ugly, and I’m fairly well built. I also don’t have a micropenis, so I don’t know why don’t I turn her on. She also made condescending remarks about how my preferences were vanilla and how I “used to jerk off to pornhub videos of boobs bouncing around and she masturbates to videos of domination and spanking” as if that somehow makes her more mature than I am. She doesn’t even know what kind of content I watched but that is irrelevant. She also smugly told me that she was able to put two fingers into herself and that it felt good, trying to make fun of the fact that she only sometimes feels good when I use one finger on her. She also never really tells me what feels good. If I’m doing something wrong she’ll just sit there until I read her mind and fix it. She also doesn’t tell me what she likes and what she wants me to do, again, leaving me to read her mind.
This conversation really dropped my self-esteem and I have been feeling like shit lately. I told her how hurt I was by this and that I won’t stand for this in a relationship, and she apologised and said she didn’t mean it, but I don’t really trust her on that. She obviously finds me attractive on some level, as she genuinely wants me at times and often initiates intimacy, so I really don’t know where all of this is coming from. She said she was just frustrated that it wasn’t going in. Is this behaviour normal? I don’t really know how to proceed. Are women usually not really into men’s bodies? Do they need this much stimulation because I constantly hear about women being wet just from thinking about their partner, and my girlfriend straight up told me that seeing me naked doesn’t make her wet at all. What should I do? I really love this girl but this is hurting my confidence.
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r/sex I don’t really know where to start. We’re both 20, it’s our first sexual relationship and we’ve been together a year. We have frequent sex, well, we usually makeout, touch eachother and give oral until we finish and we didn’t really have sex. We tried, but she’s too tight and it isn’t going in. We tried lube, different poses, drunk sex etc. but none of it seemed to work. This is besides the point since this isn’t my main problem, but I just wanted to give some background information. Last week we had a sort of a fight about all this. It started with me telling her I don’t like being bit when we’re intimate. She bites really hard so I told her I don’t want her to do that anymore, to which she said a few things that shocked me. She told me that she does it so that I hold her down because domination turns her on, however we didn’t really get into that yet since we still didn’t even have proper sex. After this she told me she never gets wet enough for sex and blamed me for not setting the mood, even though she’s wet every time after I touch her a bit and she always finishes. It’s not like I don’t value foreplay or her needs. I always give her all the time and effort. She also said that she finds me attractive but my body and my penis don’t make her wet. Nor does making out. These two points completely shocked me. I thought she enjoyed all of this, but I don’t even understand why she does it if it doesn’t turn her on. I’m not ugly, and I’m fairly well built. I also don’t have a micropenis, so I don’t know why don’t I turn her on. She also made condescending remarks about how my preferences were vanilla and how I “used to jerk off to pornhub videos of boobs bouncing around and she masturbates to videos of domination and spanking” as if that somehow makes her more mature than I am. She doesn’t even know what kind of content I watched but that is irrelevant. She also smugly told me that she was able to put two fingers into herself and that it felt good, trying to make fun of the fact that she only sometimes feels good when I use one finger on her. She also never really tells me what feels good. If I’m doing something wrong she’ll just sit there until I read her mind and fix it. She also doesn’t tell me what she likes and what she wants me to do, again, leaving me to read her mind. This conversation really dropped my self-esteem and I have been feeling like shit lately. I told her how hurt I was by this and that I won’t stand for this in a relationship, and she apologised and said she didn’t mean it, but I don’t really trust her on that. She obviously finds me attractive on some level, as she genuinely wants me at times and often initiates intimacy, so I really don’t know where all of this is coming from. She said she was just frustrated that it wasn’t going in. Is this behaviour normal? I don’t really know how to proceed. Are women usually not really into men’s bodies? Do they need this much stimulation because I constantly hear about women being wet just from thinking about their partner, and my girlfriend straight up told me that seeing me naked doesn’t make her wet at all. What should I do? I really love this girl but this is hurting my confidence. submitted by /u/HereComesTheSun05 [link] [comments]
I don’t really know where to start. We’re both 20, it’s our first sexual relationship and we’ve been together a year. We have frequent sex, well, we usually makeout, touch eachother and give oral until we finish and we didn’t really have sex. We tried, but she’s too tight and it isn’t going in. We tried lube, different poses, drunk sex etc. but none of it seemed to work. This is besides the point since this isn’t my main problem, but I just wanted to give some background information.
Last week we had a sort of a fight about all this. It started with me telling her I don’t like being bit when we’re intimate. She bites really hard so I told her I don’t want her to do that anymore, to which she said a few things that shocked me. She told me that she does it so that I hold her down because domination turns her on, however we didn’t really get into that yet since we still didn’t even have proper sex. After this she told me she never gets wet enough for sex and blamed me for not setting the mood, even though she’s wet every time after I touch her a bit and she always finishes. It’s not like I don’t value foreplay or her needs. I always give her all the time and effort. She also said that she finds me attractive but my body and my penis don’t make her wet. Nor does making out. These two points completely shocked me. I thought she enjoyed all of this, but I don’t even understand why she does it if it doesn’t turn her on. I’m not ugly, and I’m fairly well built. I also don’t have a micropenis, so I don’t know why don’t I turn her on. She also made condescending remarks about how my preferences were vanilla and how I “used to jerk off to pornhub videos of boobs bouncing around and she masturbates to videos of domination and spanking” as if that somehow makes her more mature than I am. She doesn’t even know what kind of content I watched but that is irrelevant. She also smugly told me that she was able to put two fingers into herself and that it felt good, trying to make fun of the fact that she only sometimes feels good when I use one finger on her. She also never really tells me what feels good. If I’m doing something wrong she’ll just sit there until I read her mind and fix it. She also doesn’t tell me what she likes and what she wants me to do, again, leaving me to read her mind.
This conversation really dropped my self-esteem and I have been feeling like shit lately. I told her how hurt I was by this and that I won’t stand for this in a relationship, and she apologised and said she didn’t mean it, but I don’t really trust her on that. She obviously finds me attractive on some level, as she genuinely wants me at times and often initiates intimacy, so I really don’t know where all of this is coming from. She said she was just frustrated that it wasn’t going in. Is this behaviour normal? I don’t really know how to proceed. Are women usually not really into men’s bodies? Do they need this much stimulation because I constantly hear about women being wet just from thinking about their partner, and my girlfriend straight up told me that seeing me naked doesn’t make her wet at all. What should I do? I really love this girl but this is hurting my confidence.
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