My partner’s sex drive is nowhere near as high as mine. /u/Ok-Medium3445 Sex

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 and something years now, currently living together and on the whole it’s great. We hardly fight, we get on easily, we laugh and we respect each hers space. The only issue in our relationship is we hardly ever have sex. I would be lucky if I had sex once a month.

This has been going on for around a year and half now. I have brought it up a few times and she has said that she will work on it, but nothing has changed. She does take medication which I know can affect a libido. But more time passes, the less likely she wants to have sex.

Now she’s reassured me that it’s nothing to do with me, but sometimes the minds play tricks. When it first started going downhill in the bedroom, I was trying to help her ease in. Initiating foreplay, doing things she told me she liked. But I was also doing non sexual things to help her feel wanted. It didn’t really work. (btw I wasn’t doing them things to get laid, I was doing them naturally because I love and care for her)

And the worst thing, when we do have sex, I just feel like it happens just to satisfy me. Which is exactly NOT what I want.

Now I feel like I’m out of energy, and we won’t have that spark back when we first started dating 3-4 years ago. What should I do?

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 and something years now, currently living together and on the whole it’s great. We hardly fight, we get on easily, we laugh and we respect each hers space. The only issue in our relationship is we hardly ever have sex. I would be lucky if I had sex once a month.

This has been going on for around a year and half now. I have brought it up a few times and she has said that she will work on it, but nothing has changed. She does take medication which I know can affect a libido. But more time passes, the less likely she wants to have sex.

Now she’s reassured me that it’s nothing to do with me, but sometimes the minds play tricks. When it first started going downhill in the bedroom, I was trying to help her ease in. Initiating foreplay, doing things she told me she liked. But I was also doing non sexual things to help her feel wanted. It didn’t really work. (btw I wasn’t doing them things to get laid, I was doing them naturally because I love and care for her)

And the worst thing, when we do have sex, I just feel like it happens just to satisfy me. Which is exactly NOT what I want.

Now I feel like I’m out of energy, and we won’t have that spark back when we first started dating 3-4 years ago. What should I do?