He brought up a threesome /u/New_Signal_3367 Sex

Me (20F) and my bf (19M) have been together for 3 years.. in the begging of our relationship we made it clear no other person would be allowed to join in our sex life or relationship, no threesomes, no poly, no open relationships.. just us and always us.

But recently we brought a dildo into our sex life.. ive never used a dildo before but we wanted to spice things up and add this to our toy collection.. we did what we did.. but last week when me and my bf were getting into the mood again he brought up a threesome with another man.. I was shocked but I heard him out.. he told me how since we got the dildo he’s been really into it and he loves seeing me use it.. he says he enjoys the fantasy of it being someone.. he also says he wants it bc he thinks I’ll enjoy it more since it’ll last longer

The reason why I’m hesitant to believe that he actually wants this is bc we’ve talked about that threesomes can cause jealousy and resentment which can lead to breakups or bad marriages! He’s also expressed his worries that he’s not satisfying me enough, that he doesn’t last long and that he’s to vanilla and I’m more kinky than him even tho I’m more than happy with what we do and if I feel like something’s wrong I always tell him! He said he wants to try double penetration and other things that can only happen with another man.. but we have a dildo..

I have a strong feeling he’s saying this because he’s insecure that I want more and he can’t give me more.. there’s so much more detail to this but these are the big things that stood out..

What do I say to him? Idk if I want a threesome or not but I’m leaning more towards a no because my relationship is so much more important than maybe 1h of “fun” with another man.. has anyone felt this way before or has experienced this?

Is he insecure or does he genuinely want this? If anyone wants more detail i can always say more! Just trying not to write a whole book

(Apologies for my bad English! It’s not my first language)

Me (20F) and my bf (19M) have been together for 3 years.. in the begging of our relationship we made it clear no other person would be allowed to join in our sex life or relationship, no threesomes, no poly, no open relationships.. just us and always us.

But recently we brought a dildo into our sex life.. ive never used a dildo before but we wanted to spice things up and add this to our toy collection.. we did what we did.. but last week when me and my bf were getting into the mood again he brought up a threesome with another man.. I was shocked but I heard him out.. he told me how since we got the dildo he’s been really into it and he loves seeing me use it.. he says he enjoys the fantasy of it being someone.. he also says he wants it bc he thinks I’ll enjoy it more since it’ll last longer

The reason why I’m hesitant to believe that he actually wants this is bc we’ve talked about that threesomes can cause jealousy and resentment which can lead to breakups or bad marriages! He’s also expressed his worries that he’s not satisfying me enough, that he doesn’t last long and that he’s to vanilla and I’m more kinky than him even tho I’m more than happy with what we do and if I feel like something’s wrong I always tell him! He said he wants to try double penetration and other things that can only happen with another man.. but we have a dildo..

I have a strong feeling he’s saying this because he’s insecure that I want more and he can’t give me more.. there’s so much more detail to this but these are the big things that stood out..

What do I say to him? Idk if I want a threesome or not but I’m leaning more towards a no because my relationship is so much more important than maybe 1h of “fun” with another man.. has anyone felt this way before or has experienced this?

Is he insecure or does he genuinely want this? If anyone wants more detail i can always say more! Just trying not to write a whole book

(Apologies for my bad English! It’s not my first language)