My(32f) boyfriend (35) can have penetrative sex for veryyyy long. On several occasions, he has gone on for like more than 30 minutes at one time. His refractive period is also insane, with him sometimes having sex with me three times within a few hours. He came over once and I said no to sex because I hadn’t showered yet, and he took it very personally. Another time, he went on for so long that i felt tired out and had to stop it. I said something about stamina and he somehow made it about how culture paints men as monsters with an outrageous libido. I hadn’t meant to shame him for his sex drive but I can understand why he felt so.
The second-last time we were having sex, I stopped him because it felt uncomfortable for me. I told him that going on for that long might be uncomfortable for the receiver, to which he said “initially” and that since I only started having sex in my thirties (lost my virginity at 31), it is down to inexperience. I told him that things might not get better with time. To which he said that it doesn’t have to affect how we feel about each other and that sex is not the be-all for him and also that we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I mean ouch. This is just admitting to the sex being lousy. He also said that no one starts out being good at it.
Also, when we first started sleeping together, he had told me that the best sex he has ever had was with his ex — “animalistic, raw, carnal, and everything he thought it could be.” He had also said that the possibility of good sex had ended with that relationship.
The thing is I don’t think I am going to get any better at this than I already am. And I don’t want to sentence him to a lifetime of bad sex. He has also brought up my sexual inexperience a few times before.
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r/sex My(32f) boyfriend (35) can have penetrative sex for veryyyy long. On several occasions, he has gone on for like more than 30 minutes at one time. His refractive period is also insane, with him sometimes having sex with me three times within a few hours. He came over once and I said no to sex because I hadn’t showered yet, and he took it very personally. Another time, he went on for so long that i felt tired out and had to stop it. I said something about stamina and he somehow made it about how culture paints men as monsters with an outrageous libido. I hadn’t meant to shame him for his sex drive but I can understand why he felt so. The second-last time we were having sex, I stopped him because it felt uncomfortable for me. I told him that going on for that long might be uncomfortable for the receiver, to which he said “initially” and that since I only started having sex in my thirties (lost my virginity at 31), it is down to inexperience. I told him that things might not get better with time. To which he said that it doesn’t have to affect how we feel about each other and that sex is not the be-all for him and also that we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I mean ouch. This is just admitting to the sex being lousy. He also said that no one starts out being good at it. Also, when we first started sleeping together, he had told me that the best sex he has ever had was with his ex — “animalistic, raw, carnal, and everything he thought it could be.” He had also said that the possibility of good sex had ended with that relationship. The thing is I don’t think I am going to get any better at this than I already am. And I don’t want to sentence him to a lifetime of bad sex. He has also brought up my sexual inexperience a few times before. submitted by /u/ThrowSoFarAway7766 [link] [comments]
My(32f) boyfriend (35) can have penetrative sex for veryyyy long. On several occasions, he has gone on for like more than 30 minutes at one time. His refractive period is also insane, with him sometimes having sex with me three times within a few hours. He came over once and I said no to sex because I hadn’t showered yet, and he took it very personally. Another time, he went on for so long that i felt tired out and had to stop it. I said something about stamina and he somehow made it about how culture paints men as monsters with an outrageous libido. I hadn’t meant to shame him for his sex drive but I can understand why he felt so.
The second-last time we were having sex, I stopped him because it felt uncomfortable for me. I told him that going on for that long might be uncomfortable for the receiver, to which he said “initially” and that since I only started having sex in my thirties (lost my virginity at 31), it is down to inexperience. I told him that things might not get better with time. To which he said that it doesn’t have to affect how we feel about each other and that sex is not the be-all for him and also that we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I mean ouch. This is just admitting to the sex being lousy. He also said that no one starts out being good at it.
Also, when we first started sleeping together, he had told me that the best sex he has ever had was with his ex — “animalistic, raw, carnal, and everything he thought it could be.” He had also said that the possibility of good sex had ended with that relationship.
The thing is I don’t think I am going to get any better at this than I already am. And I don’t want to sentence him to a lifetime of bad sex. He has also brought up my sexual inexperience a few times before.
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