Relationship with BF who is disgusted by sex. /u/Nosey_intravert Sex

I (44f) have been dating a guy (47m) for around 5 months now. I very much enjoy my time with him. He always has me laughing, we do projects together ( hobbies). We shop and do laundry together just everyday things and we talk a lot. I’ve learned many things about him and one of the things we have talked about was sex. He tells me he feels sex is “ over rated “ so he’s not very interested in it. He has also told me that it has been ingrained into him that sex is dirty to the point he doesn’t think about sex and then when it comes down to it he practically recoils from it. To me this wasn’t completely a big deal. Honestly, I never got off from sex anyway. But I do enjoy the intimacy that goes with it. My problem is I struggle in my head with “ how do I show him he is special to me? Or even how do I know he even finds me attractive?” Stupid questions that just pop in my head at night. We have had sex though only like 4 times and I know he was forcing himself, even though I’ve told him I can take care of my needs myself. He says I shouldn’t have to. 🤦‍♀️ I’m confused. I do want the intimacy but it hurts thinking he feels disgusted trying to have sex. He tries to hide it but we’ve never had sex longer than two minutes and it’s not cause either of us got off. I don’t even know what I’m asking. Like I feel like I’m r@ping him even though I never ask for it at the same time I don’t want to refuse cause he makes me happy with everything just our everyday things.

I (44f) have been dating a guy (47m) for around 5 months now. I very much enjoy my time with him. He always has me laughing, we do projects together ( hobbies). We shop and do laundry together just everyday things and we talk a lot. I’ve learned many things about him and one of the things we have talked about was sex. He tells me he feels sex is “ over rated “ so he’s not very interested in it. He has also told me that it has been ingrained into him that sex is dirty to the point he doesn’t think about sex and then when it comes down to it he practically recoils from it. To me this wasn’t completely a big deal. Honestly, I never got off from sex anyway. But I do enjoy the intimacy that goes with it. My problem is I struggle in my head with “ how do I show him he is special to me? Or even how do I know he even finds me attractive?” Stupid questions that just pop in my head at night. We have had sex though only like 4 times and I know he was forcing himself, even though I’ve told him I can take care of my needs myself. He says I shouldn’t have to. 🤦‍♀️ I’m confused. I do want the intimacy but it hurts thinking he feels disgusted trying to have sex. He tries to hide it but we’ve never had sex longer than two minutes and it’s not cause either of us got off. I don’t even know what I’m asking. Like I feel like I’m r@ping him even though I never ask for it at the same time I don’t want to refuse cause he makes me happy with everything just our everyday things.