Bf has weak orgasms when we have sex but not when he watches porn. Need advice please /u/cherrystem24 Sex

So lately my boyfriend has not been having good orgasms during sex. Sometimes I guess they are weaker and sometimes they’re just crappy or don’t feel good. So he usually watches porn quite often and I don’t like it. It’s been a regular argument because I want to have good sex and a connection with him and it takes away from that and makes me feel bad about myself and not confident in our relationship. He says that he tries to stop, and we have more sex those times but then this happens and he doesn’t have a good orgasm and I assume he goes back to it. I don’t know if it is related to that or something else. We have been together over 5 years so things are kind of getting boring I guess, but we’ve done different things to spice it up. It’s just that if we do that every time then that will get boring too so idk exactly what I’m supposed to be doing differently to make it better. It’s kind of hard because we have kids and never get a minute away from them, no sitter ever and they can’t just watch a movie or something and leave us alone. He puts a lot of effort into my pleasure and I really want him to be satisfied from me too. And I want our sex life to go back to normal. Can someone give me advice on how to fix this? What could cause weak orgasms? He seems to enjoy it all and then right at the end it’s just not as pleasurable. He told me before that he cums harder when he jerks off and I don’t get why that would be better. Is he just not into me anymore?

So lately my boyfriend has not been having good orgasms during sex. Sometimes I guess they are weaker and sometimes they’re just crappy or don’t feel good. So he usually watches porn quite often and I don’t like it. It’s been a regular argument because I want to have good sex and a connection with him and it takes away from that and makes me feel bad about myself and not confident in our relationship. He says that he tries to stop, and we have more sex those times but then this happens and he doesn’t have a good orgasm and I assume he goes back to it. I don’t know if it is related to that or something else. We have been together over 5 years so things are kind of getting boring I guess, but we’ve done different things to spice it up. It’s just that if we do that every time then that will get boring too so idk exactly what I’m supposed to be doing differently to make it better. It’s kind of hard because we have kids and never get a minute away from them, no sitter ever and they can’t just watch a movie or something and leave us alone. He puts a lot of effort into my pleasure and I really want him to be satisfied from me too. And I want our sex life to go back to normal. Can someone give me advice on how to fix this? What could cause weak orgasms? He seems to enjoy it all and then right at the end it’s just not as pleasurable. He told me before that he cums harder when he jerks off and I don’t get why that would be better. Is he just not into me anymore?