I Have Kinks and Fantasies That I Doubt I Could Ever Introduce My Boyfriend To /u/Waste_Training_244 Sex

TW: Con Non-Con mentioned

So, I’ll get right to it: I, 27F, love my boyfriend 26M, he loves me. We have a great connection,no conflicts, his family loves me, he makes me happy everyday. We trust and adore each other. We also have a great sex life. He prioritizes my pleasure in a way none of my exes did and I really enjoy that. I genuinely love things I previously disliked with former partners, such as oral sex (both giving and receiving).

Here is the thing: I have some kinks and fantasies that I have no idea how to communicate with him, and I’m worried that if I do,I’ll freak him out.

The main ones are somnophilia and CNC (consensual non-consent). An extension of the CNC one is I have fantasies about multiple men,- nobody in particular mind you just general faceless, nameless men- using me.

My boyfriend is a sweet and sensitive soul who would never ever do a thing to hurt or upset me, which is great, but I think it is probably at odds with some of my kinks. There is no way he would ever feel comfortable pretending to hurt me, much less get pleasure from it.

Somnophilia is probably out as well because one of his favorite parts of sex is seeing me react and we both like it when I’m in top, putting work in, etc. I have told him when we’re cuddling at night that he is allowed to feel me up and touch me sexually even if I’ve fallen asleep, and that the idea turns me on. He didn’t decline doing any of that but he also always falls asleep before me anyways, so as far as I know it hasn’t happened.

As for the group fantasy- I think that one logistically will always have to remain a fantasy. Even if he was on board, I don’t ACTUALLY want a bunch of other men fucking me. I am strictly monogamous. And I’d hate to make my boyfriend jealous or insecure. Plus, it is too dangerous to play that fantasy out with strangers, but too socially messy to play it out with people you know, so it just doesn’t work. That said, I think I’d have fun talking about it and imagining that sort of fantasy together with my partner. Imagining he was pimping me out or something. I don’t know, I just don’t think he’d like it. I just get really turned on by the idea of him surprising me by “selling” me to a bunch of men who then get to use me however they want. I don’t think he’d like that idea though.

Anyways, does anyone have advice on how to approach these kinks and fantasies with him? Anything is appreciated. I’m a lucky woman to have someone like him and I’d love to explore this side of myself with him, not in private.

TW: Con Non-Con mentioned

So, I’ll get right to it: I, 27F, love my boyfriend 26M, he loves me. We have a great connection,no conflicts, his family loves me, he makes me happy everyday. We trust and adore each other. We also have a great sex life. He prioritizes my pleasure in a way none of my exes did and I really enjoy that. I genuinely love things I previously disliked with former partners, such as oral sex (both giving and receiving).

Here is the thing: I have some kinks and fantasies that I have no idea how to communicate with him, and I’m worried that if I do,I’ll freak him out.

The main ones are somnophilia and CNC (consensual non-consent). An extension of the CNC one is I have fantasies about multiple men,- nobody in particular mind you just general faceless, nameless men- using me.

My boyfriend is a sweet and sensitive soul who would never ever do a thing to hurt or upset me, which is great, but I think it is probably at odds with some of my kinks. There is no way he would ever feel comfortable pretending to hurt me, much less get pleasure from it.

Somnophilia is probably out as well because one of his favorite parts of sex is seeing me react and we both like it when I’m in top, putting work in, etc. I have told him when we’re cuddling at night that he is allowed to feel me up and touch me sexually even if I’ve fallen asleep, and that the idea turns me on. He didn’t decline doing any of that but he also always falls asleep before me anyways, so as far as I know it hasn’t happened.

As for the group fantasy- I think that one logistically will always have to remain a fantasy. Even if he was on board, I don’t ACTUALLY want a bunch of other men fucking me. I am strictly monogamous. And I’d hate to make my boyfriend jealous or insecure. Plus, it is too dangerous to play that fantasy out with strangers, but too socially messy to play it out with people you know, so it just doesn’t work. That said, I think I’d have fun talking about it and imagining that sort of fantasy together with my partner. Imagining he was pimping me out or something. I don’t know, I just don’t think he’d like it. I just get really turned on by the idea of him surprising me by “selling” me to a bunch of men who then get to use me however they want. I don’t think he’d like that idea though.

Anyways, does anyone have advice on how to approach these kinks and fantasies with him? Anything is appreciated. I’m a lucky woman to have someone like him and I’d love to explore this side of myself with him, not in private.